Wednesday, 13 June 2012
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Pet Peeve: Girls Who Complain About Not Getting Laid
I have lots of pet peeves. I think that most things piss me off. However, if nothing else, this may at least be my pet peeve that is most relevant to this forum of discussion.
And I know in advance that there is no way I can talk about this without being accused of sexism. I accept that in advance, and I fully admit that there is a double standard for guys and girls. That's the way the world works. It may not be fair or ideal, but it's reality.
Now that I'm done with my disclaimers; my pet peeve is this: girls who complain about not getting laid.Girls who complain about having a hard or impossible time getting laid really upset me, because I feel that they have a much easier time than guys. I'm sure a lot of women will disagree with me, but as far as I can tell, girls have a way easier time than guys.
Ladies, if you don't believe me, go post an ad on Craigslist saying that you want a good dicking. I bet you'll get literally dozens or replies before the post is taken down as being fake since nobody can believe that a girl would post on Craigslist looking for sex.
Or, if Craigslist isn't your style, simply make a profile on any online dating site. Even without a picture I bet you'll get random message from guys looking to fuck your brains out.If the Internet isn't your cup of tea, I think you'd find yourself to be equally successful in the so-called "real world." I apologize in advance for not having links to the studies, but I know I've read about the success rates of women vs. men in randomly asking strangers to fuck.
Basically, on college campuses anyway, if girls from a psychology class go up to random strangers and ask to have sex, the answer is either "yes" or "I have a girlfriend." When guys ask ladies, the answer is universally "no."I consider myself to be a regular guy, and I think I can speak from experience here. When I'm single, I would fuck most women, particularly within my age range. I don't think it's due to low standards or self-esteem or any psycho-babble bullshit like that. I think most women are beautiful, most people are good, and sex is fun.
All of the inspirational girl-power quotes I've read seem to agree with me that you're all beautiful, so why should it be surprising that I'd fuck you? If I think you're beautiful (which I probably do), and I assume that you're just another good person who wants a lay like me (I think it's fair to assume you're not a bitch), then we should have a good time and fuck.I've never been a girl, but I'm friends with a lot of guys. If we're at a bar (or anywhere) and you come up to us and buy us a drink or start up a conversation, we'll be flattered. If you want to take us home at the end of the night, and we're single, we'll probably go.
I know I'm probably not your ideal man. I don't think most of us guys are. We're not Prince Charming; we're happy to sleep with you and not call you back the next day. I know a lot of us will lie to try to get into your pants, which makes me think you won't have a difficult time inviting us in.
A lot of us are assholes; maybe even most of us. But I know for a fact that we'll fuck you. Date you, call you back, fall in love with you? Maybe not. But fucking? Absolutely. I even think a good percentage of us will agree to date you or whatever if you keep putting out.Ladies, if you're having a tough time finding your Prince Charming, your partner, or your soul mate, I feel for you. Love is difficult. But if you're having a hard time finding someone to stick it in you Friday night, I have no sympathy. You're beautiful and you're a good, honest person. Ask us to help you have a good time, and we'll oblige.
If you're really unlucky, you might have to ask 2 or 3 guys before you get a "yes," but believe me, you'll get one. But if you only limit yourself to handsome, 6-foot tall guys who are rich, caring, polite, looking for a long-term monogamous relationship, and whatever other qualities it is you find attractive in the George Clooneys and Bratt Pitts of the world, you're going to have a hard time. Most of us are like you, just regular people looking to have some fun.
Readers: What do you think?
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i agree with you wholeheartedly (not that there's any room for argument here), and was really, really excited when i saw the title to your post...but i don't quite see what your overarching point is. you didn't really say anything that we all didn't already know.
oh, don't forget about fat chicks though. they shouldn't be allowed to get laid till they get on the fucking treadmill. (same for fat guys too, but this post is about girls.)
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Don't you remember what Glen Quagmire said? Fat chicks need loving too; they just have to pay.
agreed. there should be no reason why a woman wouldn't get fucked. but likewise, i see this to be fit for men as well. granted, as a woman, my standards are different than yours, but a man should be able to find someone willing to have sex with him. there are some horny broads out there and they are pretty easy to find.
More cushion for the pushing.
haha this post is so true. For a woman to get sex, she pretty much just has to exist. I can go out any night and take someone home. But that's not what I want! it's frustrating
We got all the goods. You don't have to convince me.
I do think sex is different for men and women though, women have to literally take someone INSIDE our bodies, it's really quite a vulnerable position to be in and to be honest I'd rather not fuck some random stranger. It can sometimes be a bad experience, I would know.
Then again I've been with the same man for 8 years, so the thought is a bit alien right now, I did have a few "fucks" before I got with him (none of which were all that great). I guess if we ever broke up, you never know I might experiment again with that stranger business. But in all honestly... a stranger? Nah, it always felt dirty and not in a sexy way. Some hot guy I know? More likely, oh yes.
I never even hear any women complaining that they can't get laid either. I think you've created some sort of myth in your head. Lmao. Even my fat friend used to get laid every time we went out.
One word...insecurity. Girls wouldn't approach a dude unless they're confident enough to do so. But even then, there's online shit. So yeah, no reason to complain.
I've never heard any woman complain about not being able to get laid whenever she wants. I think most women realize that they could easily find someone to hook up with if they simply asked; what they're complaining about is a lack or perceived lack of quality men they'd sleep with.
Therefore, for example, I would mentally translate the phrase "I can't find anyone too hook up with" to mean "All the guys who want to do me are fucking troglodytes and cavemen and there's no one I find attractive/funny/witty/intellectually stimulating enough to screw."
While shit like that is often trivial for men and a lot of guys have no problem with dropping their standards if it means they get booty out of it, a number of the women I know have stated that if there's no connection/attraction to the guy they're hooking up with, they don't enjoy it as much, which defeats the whole purpose of NSA sex to begin with. While there's obviously exceptions to this, I've generally found through personal experience that women would rather go sexless than totally drop their standards and bang some random guy they're not attracted to at all.
I don't have a lot of pet peeves, but I certainly don't have much tolerance for men who don't recognize their male privilege, or recognize how misogyny is at work in the U.S. (and then perpetuate it).
Glad you acknowledge three important things:
Sexism,
The male/female double standard,
The fact that a lot of guys are assholes.
And it becomes the job of women (and really all people of all genders, if we're talking about Craigslist specifically) to weed through all the assholes to find someone who can actually come through on providing a good time to their sex partner. How is anyone to know that the person they're talking to is good at practicing consent? How are they to know that the person is a good fuck (much more than a penis)? That they're kind? That they'll have some sort of legitimate sexual connection with the person? I mean, I will say one thing, looking on Craigslist is in many ways SAFER for women than looking for men at bars - because (1) alcohol undoes consent and (2) it's kind of really problematic how predatory some folks are, but it's still far from perfect.
I personally find it entirely creepy that an empty profile on an online dating site will get responses from guys. My partner and I both maintained OkCupid accounts that were very similar except for hers listing an F and mine an M, and we had *completely* different experiences with the site. People generally wanted to get to know me for who I am, whereas men messaging her basically came across like they saw her as a hole to put their penis in. She didn't want to sleep with any of them - because, to her, (and I agree with this), the penis doesn't make the fuck good- the person attached to it does.
I could go on for like an hour writing out why this is all total bullshit in practice. Like how we're all so fucking BAD at talking about sex. Having sex? Sure, we're okay with it. But discussing STIs and pregnancy and what we like or don't like in bed or exactly what acts are and are not consented to -- even talking about contraceptives and agreeing beforehand that a condom will be used -- like, that's rarely practiced correctly. That shit is rarely talked about. Further, for all the research you're claiming, I think it's important to note just how much better people in relationships rate their sex lives than people having one night stands. I haven't done all the reading available to me, but I would venture to guess that a part of it has to do with the fact that communication actually happens in relationships, partner A usually knows what partner B likes, and that there's actually usually a legitimate connection to the sex partner as a quality human being.
Most women know that they could get a dick attached to a man to put inside them if that's all they wanted. And, hell, they could buy it themselves separate from the man attached. But what a lot of people *really* want is good, consensual, satisfying sex without the risk of sexual assault. And for a lot of women, that seems only slightly more likely than getting a winning lottery ticket.
@tokyoexpressman@xanga - Completely agree with you.
@tokyoexpressman@xanga - THIS. You pretty much covered everything I wanted to say.
Quite often my girl friends and I would wonder why we were so very single, while another friend would hook up with guys all of the time. When we really thought about it though, we looked at the men she was with and realized that our standards were different. While the men we get are far and few between, we make more of an effort towards QUALITY men. I could pull out my phone and get laid in no time, but that would involve changing my standards. This, of course, is why I don't complain about it.
you're just annoyed that a hoard of hot horny girls like those girls gone wild girls won't have an ogry with you
even they will likely pick the meathead jersey shore looking douchebag than some random and average or out of shape guy. if it is about sex, then most likely these females that you want, and I don't believe that you'd want just any random female, who you don't find attractive. you want a hot one. I don't hookup but if I ever did, why sell myself short and pick one that I'm not even sexually attracted to but he wants to have sex with me...just to get laid. that's quite pathetic. even animals pick the strongest one who wins the fight or the flashiest peacock or the prettiest bird,etc. if there's an accidental pregnancy even with birth control and condoms, which is rare, but might happen, then their unexpected baby out of a one night stand would be sexy when he/she grows up
gawd i hate that when people in general complain about not getting laid. it's so annoy. if you're not getting laid then maybe they need to get laid then.
I know that as a woman, it's so easy to have sex. Odds are you ask a guy and he will say YES! If not, maybe the buddy next to him. So I don't know why a woman would complain unless her sex partners have been bad and she doesn't just want to get laid by some awful peen.
I used to complain while single that I missed the peen, but I've never been into casual sex so I diddled and was good without sex til the next need when I just diddled again.
So maybe it's about QUALITY lays.
Maybe women should say, "Man... I want a great quality lay...".
guys will go for any kind of girl, but girls will not go for any kind of guy. that's why girls bitch about not getting laid. the right kind of guy never presents himself.
I will agree that girls probably get laid a hell of a lot easier. The reason most females complain about not getting laid isn't because they can't get laid, it's because they don't just lay down and open up for any guy. I know for a fact that like 50% of the guys in my phone I can text right now about having sex and it'll happen in the next two hours, but that doesn't mean I'm going to do it. Yeah, I want sex and it's been a few months, but I have a few issues with just going off to have sex with someone that isn't right. That doesn't mean it's because they don't want a relationship or because they aren't fucking gorgeous, it's usually because they just aren't right at all not even for a one night stand.
the only time i have EVER heard a female friend complain about a lack of "getting laid" is one whose boyfriend is, say, serving abroad in the military or has been sick for a week. i don't know where you're meeting these women but they don't seem to exist where i live.
haha, Bratt Pitt. So that's why they took my craigslist ad down...
@laytexduckie@xanga - hahaha i haven't watched that show in forever. cable is expensive when you live by yourself :( plus, unlike when i was in school, i go out a lot during the week. so i'm never home when it's on anyway.
but in any case. i don't think i could be paid enough to pork some fat chick.
@Lemonade_Constellation@xanga - no, you'd be surprised. i've known a lot of guys who were just way too fucking old when they lost their respective virginities--a couple out of choice, but most because they couldn't find girls who were into them. and i'm talking about guys who were/are very well-to-do in life...advanced degrees, not fat, not annoying, great social skills, and so on.
@tokyoexpressman@xanga - your last point isn't true. in my experience, *everyone* will drop their standards or rules or whatever at some point.
I agree with this post to a certain extent. However, when ladies try to find a man who wants to commit, they hardly exist. Try being a lady and finding someone to actually COMMIT, now that's a different story.
Sure, it's easy for a woman to get laid if she has no standards. I think most of my male friends would probably sleep with me if I asked them, but the problem is that I'm not interested in sleeping with them whatsoever.
I think men fail to realize that sex and attraction are totally different for women than they are for men.
Guys trying to find girls to get laid takes just as much effort as a girl trying to find guys with standards who will commit.
Biology and social expectations play a large role in being picky, because there is more at stake for the people who can get pregnant.
Just going to point this out.. But many of the commenters are FUCKING RUDE. Im sure you guys aren't all that great either, and most of you are probably hidious as fuck anyways. People can lose weight, people can get rid of ugliness.
Sex with a stranger is very different then sex with someone you know, you love and you trust with your life.
I've experienced both and I'd much rather sleep with my boyfriend of 9 years then anyone else in the world. He can bring my body to levels a stranger couldn't even fathom.