In Touch's latest cover features several photos of Kate Middleton, Duchess of York, with the splashy headline, "Royal World Exclusive! Kate's First Bump Photos." Celebrity magazines have a bump-watch obsession, often confusing an actress' few-pound weight gain for a bun in the oven. But when your child will be the next heir to Britain's throne, that obsession is, ahem, bumped up a notch.
Britain's royals have yet to comment, although recent comments about their desire to have a family have raised eyebrows. But Kate and William, whose much-publicized royal wedding took place on April 29, 2012, have been married for barely over a year.
Is it too soon to have a baby?Obviously, this is a very personal decision, with different answers for different people. Antiquated as it may seem, it is still Kate's 'royal duty' to produce a heir. Given Princess Diana's sudden death and all the scandal surrounding it, perhaps it's no surprise that the world is eager to see Kate with a baby.
For us normal, non-royal folk, though, life is more complicated. Some people marry with a child already on the way. Other
young married couples wait years to have children, often due to lack of emotional or financial stability.
As the average age of marriage gets older, a woman's ability to have a child comes into consideration, perhaps narrowing the gap between the wedding and the desired time of conception. Still others just want to enjoy each others' company for a while. And some simply don't want kids (though hopefully they've discussed this way before the wedding).
How long did you wait after getting married to have children? How long would you want to? Do you think it's too early for Kate and William to have a baby?
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Well, atleast they are married.. I know a couple of people who've had one night stands which ended up in pregnancies.
I think it's unfair in general how much pressure is put on women for stupid things but children are a personal decision. Your marital status doesnt make you a good parent. Your morals & values do. I've seen wonderful people raised by single parents & I've seen some fucked up people come out a "traditional family".
Whether you start right away or wait a few years is up to the couple & I actually applaud people who decide not to have kids. Reason being they feel they dont want or need to become parents to please others. It doesnt mean they hate kids, they just dont want to raise them for whatever reason. I'd rather see that than some people who brought kids in the world & neglected or killed them because they couldnt deal.
How is it too soon? I thought they've been together for years and years. Just because they're newlyweds doesn't mean they haven't been acting like they're married for a while now. If they're ready, it's their decision. Who are we to decide for them?
My husband and I have been married for 3 years (4 in August), we're trying to conceive a child. We're going about it rather casually for now, but I don't think it is too soon for the royal couple to have a baby now. They seem to be responsible adults. We are friends with a couple, and they're expecting their first child late July and they got married last September. Their child will be born before their first anniversary! They've been together several years, so I don't think it's too soon for them either.
Side note: I thought they got married last year?
How is too soon? Will and Kate have been together for ten years and it's not like they're still teenagers either. They're responsible adults with a solid, loving relationship. I say good for them if Kate's pregnant, they make a lovely couple.
@babybug329@xanga - yeah, it was last year. April 2011 :)
@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - There are actually a myriad little things about the relationship between a mother and a father that significantly affect a child's psychological health, academic outcomes, subjective well-being, among many others. A positive, healthy relationship between the biological mother and father DURING the pregnancy can even predict certain outcomes. Even the presence of a grandparent can lead to somewhat predictable outcomes.
Of course, these are trends and do not apply to a minority of children. But there definitely is a significant difference. I'd say the expectation that single parents will ALWAYS produce unhappy, troubled kids is definitely wrong, but there is research that definitely shows certain outcomes are correlated with certain parental characteristics.
I personally do not want to wait a long time after I get married to have a baby. My boyfriend and I have already talked about it. We want kind of a five year plan, but every year we'll kind of talk about it again to see where we're at. And also at the same time, if we end up getting pregnant early on in our marriage despite using birth control we are not going to complain.
As for this couple. I really don't think it's any of our business when they have a baby. It's their life not ours. And I am REALLY getting sick of people thinking they do have a say in their lives. Such as lovelyish. I think it's really pointless for you to be asking do you think it's too early? Is it to late? Who cares??! It's their lives not ours. And nothing we say is going to change how they live their lives.
Why would it be too soon? They've been together for YEARS, and they're both adults too. I don't see what the big deal/problem would be. Plus I'm pretty sure most people in the US didn't even know their names until they got married.
I personally want to wait until my SO and I am done with school and have a career to get married. I would want to be married at least for 3 years until I can think about having a family... I am 27 though so I am not too sure how that is going to work out...
I think it's really only their business. -.-
Why the hell does anyone care how long they've been together? The second we can afford it, I'm trying for a baby with my boyfriend, regardless if we're married or not. We're both responsible adults who want children together and can provide a stable environment.
Yeah kind of a stupid question if you take in consideration that despite only being married for a little over a year they've been together for ten.
Considering they're both around 30 and they've been together for a decade, I'd say that it's their own damn business on when they start having kids.
The same people who think this is an issue would pounce on Kate in a split second if she waited until age 35 or 40, and ended up with a child who had birth defects. I hope they have as many kids as they want, when they want.