Tuesday, 12 June 2012
This post has been submitted by Datingish reader, Delilah.
After three years of being in a relationship, I noticed that my boyfriend and I barely talk while dining at a restaurant or out in public in general. Maybe even at home! Everyone else who had some form of company at a restaurant would be chatting. Our eyes, however, are usually either directed at our food or wandering off into space.
I sometimes deem them awkward silences, but sometimes I figure it's because we're both highly introverted and focused on school-work more than outside activities and people. If we did find free time, we would be doing something together--like getting groceries, watching a movie, describing our school work, or taking a silent stroll: We talk out of necessity more often than for small talk.
Is this uncommon? Taboo? Do you think it's something to work on? Or are we allowed to respect our natural silence as something acceptable in the relationship?