Tuesday, 12 June 2012
Last night, I was talking to a woman who claimed to have had a secret crush on me.
In the middle of a funny conversation, I gave her a glimpse of what I'd say to a woman if I had asked her out. (I wrote this very thing into a poem, and I'll put this up some other time, when I can. And this was before I was taken, by the way.)
She claimed to be full of smiles, and said that I seemed like a breath of fresh air amongst the thugs and the perverts she was constantly faced with. Now, this wasn't really a problem for me, until she made the ever-famous (and, let's face it, ever-lofty) claim that there are not enough guys like me. Not enough guys who would take the time to get to really get to know a girl before he jokes around, flirts with them and does all the things most women like.
This morning, I went into the shower and pondered every bit of this, and it seems like the number one complaint amongst many women is that there aren't enough men with home training or something of that nature.
What I was thinking is this: if you are as much of a good man as they think, it makes it pretty easy for a man to get a girl's attention. All you have to do is be the best part of you, and pay women the attention they deserve.
Basically, treat them like no more and no less than a human being that deserves respect and love. Making him think, "There is no other man like you," makes a man feel bigger than he really is.
This means a gentleman who can thrill a girl or two can have their pick of any woman on earth. Realizing this, it makes it impossible for a man to want to settle down. This especially goes for any guy who hasn't been able to get girls in the past.
Now, here is the thing: we all thought men did the whole chivalry thing just so they could find a nice woman to settle down with! Now, all of a sudden, you are under the big impression that women can't find another dude like you. But it seems like this lofty claim ladies make is what makes men want to continue it, to pick up a woman.
Ladies, men know that there are good men around and are completely perplexed when you don't see it. The more women claim there isn't enough like you, the more it's like they are saying that there isn't enough of you to go around. That or there isn't enough like you in the town they live in. So, if a majority of women say this, this kind of thing makes a man feel like spreading themselves thin or taking the arms of any woman looking to have them.
This kind of thing is probably why George Clooney can always find himself a woman to hang on his arm, even though he made specific claims that he doesn't ever want to marry one.