Thursday, 07 June 2012
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Seeing Your Ex with Someone Else
Just a simple question: Would you rather see your ex with someone you consider better or worse than yourself?I believe this is determined by a few simple factors, namely the nature of the breakup and one's own self-esteem. If the breakup was bad, someone might be spiteful and hope that said ex is dating a loser. On the other hand, if things ended amicably, one might want to see their ex moving onto someone better and be happy for them. Another thought is that said ex at least didn't downgrade, which could stir up some self-doubts.
Of course, I think the best viewpoint is seeing an ex and yourself with people who are not necessarily better or worse, but better for each other.
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I don't really see anyone as better... what my ex does i really don't care. I don't associate with my exes. tried it once and they kept trying to sleep with me so a said good bye.
it doesn't really matters if she's better than me or not, what causes the pain is the fact that he doesn't love me, the idea of "love" ending...at least in my case.
I'd be too busy with my own life to wonder about the new couple.
Sort of a loaded question. What person wants to compare themselves to anyone in terms of who is "better" or "worse"?
it doesn't get better than me, so i kind of feel bad for any girl who decides she wants to stop getting it in with me. (plus, i don't keep in touch with exes and have--to the best of my recollection right now--never bumped into them randomly.)
This is what I'd do if I saw my ex with someone else who didn't/doesn't love them more than I did. I call my ex mentally incompetent and accuse myself of statutory rape. Everybody laughs and becomes wiser, except for me ex who will keep getting taken advantage of for the rest of her life because she doesn't realize what a dipshit she is for not forgiving herself for no longer being with me!
Then I call the other guy a and see how he reacts. If he gets nasty and violent about it, he probably is! If he goes out of his way to prove he isn't, then congrats you just helped your ex-girl get laid by someone decent. But you AND that other guy, and probably every other guy she has or will sleep with, are way WAY horribly guilty of statutory, because that bitch is a dumb ho. End of story.
I don't really care what my ex's are upto. They can do whatever and whoever they like.
I would prefer to see my ex end up with someone that's a better fit for her than me. I don't want her to be unhappy and regret not still being with me. Our paths may diverge now but we once shared the same road so we'll always have that bond. I would be terrible worried if I knew she was unhappy with her life.
All that matters, is that I am happy.
I hope they are all with women who fit them better than I did.
If my Bf and I were to break up, I would want him to be happy. I would try not to judge the other person based solely on my knowledge that our relationship was unlike any relationship he had before me, or would have after me. Not that it was better or worse, just that it was unique. I think I could be happy for him.
i have a few I'd like to see with Ms. Perfect (for them) and a few who I'd love to see in jail. I have one who definately downgraded (people told me) and his fiance is at least 250 and a lot less attractive than I am and people told me I was better and even a better match for him but I beg to differ. (I didn't want to know- I think I finally got off the newsletter of all my exes personal lives.) I really don't care but none seem to do better than me, better for them but friend wise, career wise and looks wise none I have seen can compare to me. I asked my husband and he agrees, he couldn't care less who his exes are with, we're together and we are happy so why think about the past?
My ex downgraded big time. I was the best to her and I know it. I don't care about her life but seems like she's still nosy about mine.. Heard her parents kicked her out, too. It's so sad, sucks to see the person you once cared so much ending up like this. I still hope her the best. I'm happy now and I want myself to stay that way.
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honestly i'd rather just never know. i never thought of myself as jealous, but I felt hurt when my ex started caring about somebody else, i couldn't even keep up the pretentious "friendship" we had anymore. yeah, I'm a bit cynical now, but i just don't see a point in trying to be friends or keeping up with exes.
ok well long term i would want them to be happy, obviously, but i'd still rather not hear about it. lol
All I wish is that they find someone who treats them well, regardless of how our relationship went. Let go of old grudges, and you can live happily.
I don't really get jealous or think about it. i move on instead of looking back.
My ex-boyfriends have absolutely no meaning to me whatsoever. I don't say that to be mean, but I have absolutely no emotional ties to them one way or another, so they're on the same level as a complete stranger.
Better than me? No..I am pretty sure that wouldn't make me happy, lol. But I really believe its all about the relationship and how it ended. If they were casual boyfriend , then sure, I hope they are happy and with someone great, but an ex who you loved and say they cheated on you? Oh no, Please let them be with someone equally as low as they are... Just my opinion. :)
I'd rather see the happy who ever they are with. It is honestly hard to find better than me for those that tend to be attracted to me. Lest from what I can see.
Two of my EX's i would like to see happy. They're wonderful people, just not for me. My 3rd however is an unusual case. See, before i met my husband we were both engaged to people. I was with a guy we'll call Joe, and my hubby was with a girl we'll call Jane. Joe left me for his ex, who happened to be Jane. And Jane left my hubby for Joe. A week later i met my now husband. We basically traded partners, and it couldn't have been better! We're now married with a son and another kid on the way, and my ex is engaged to Jane and they have a son together.
I wish the best for them, but because of how he ended it with me and the fact that he harassed me and my family for a year after our break up i'm not exactly fond of him. So i'd just rather pretend he doesn't exist.
I'm pretty good friends with my exes, though most I just consider acquaintances now. What they do and who they date has nothing to do with me and I simply wish them the best.
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I would rather see an ex with someone "better". Or maybe with someone who makes them happy, where she and I failed. Unless my ex got with my best friend and we are not best friends anymore. Whoops did I just say that?