I have been thinking about moving out of my boyfriend's house and back to my mother's. I have been living here for two years and I feel like I have built my life here. Lately, I really just want to pack up my things and go, but I've just been having trouble starting. It's so much to just pack up and take your things, and then I don't even know what I should take.
Do I take the things I bought? Like the pictures on the walls or the holiday decorations? Dishes?
I am lost and have know idea how to even bring myself to leave. I've been unhappy for a year now... we both have. I just can't seem to go... when I know it's the right thing to do.
Any suggestions?
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Seems To Me Like You Already Know What To Do...
However If Your Having Such A Hard Problem Leaving It Seems Like You May THINK
You Have A Good Reason To Stay...
EVALUATE HOW YOU FEEL:
If You Know That Things Will NEVER Be The Same And You Wont Be Happy...
Just Take The Things THAT ARE YOURS Alone
NOT Things You Bought Jointly!
(UNLESS You Talk About It First)
If You Feel A Spark Of Hope Or You Want To Save Your Relationship
I Suggest Talking Things Through Completely (200%)
&& I Also Suggest That You Talk About Couples Counseling...But Only If You Feel It's Worth It And It's Something You Both Agree To.
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The suggestions given by @TheDatingQueen sounds right to me.
If you're looking to take a break, taking the essentials and staying with your mom for a short period of time to re-evaluate might help. If you're set on moving out, take what is yours, and talk about the things that you own or share.
I never lived with a guy, so idk. I'm very protective of my things and don't like sharing a room with anyone. I don't like it when people touch my things out of curiosity, then don't put them back where they were originally at and I notice that my things have been moved
I don't care who the person is, but don't touch my stuff
I also don't like mingling my things with other peoples' things or in this case, a bf's things, such as sharing a closet. I organize my things in my own way and having his stuff there will mess it up if he is a messy person
it'll drive me crazy if the guy is a slob. my guy is pretty slobbish but he lives in his own house, so he can do whatever he wants. my neat freak place is rather perfect for me
date each other but don't live together if you are meticulous about your things and/or can't stand to live with someone else even if he is cute.
take back what's yours of course:) as for joint things like pictures, talk it out to a mutual agreement. as for seasonal things like decorations that can be bought again, leave it there, or if he doesn't care for them, then take it. if you've asked to talk to him about it and he doesn't care or takes too long to respond, then he forfeited his right and you can just take whatever you deem is yours:D
This is a tough situation. As far as the dishes, etc., you have a right to take the stuff that you bought. That said, if you and your boyfriend are on good terms maybe you could work out an agreement where he can keep the dishes or any other necessities at least until he gets a new set. I had a roommate move out on me without notice and took all of the dishes with her and I was eating on paper towels for two days!
I think you should sit your boyfriend down and have an honest conversation where you tell him that you're leaving and ask how he'd like to divvy things up and then work from there. I would recommend having an immediate plan to move out when you have this conversation though, you don't want to go through that and then stick around for another two weeks. Awkward and painful.
G'luck.
you can also sell stuff you bought jointly and split the cash?
I guess the essentials don't mean so much to me as actually having to pack up and leave... Picking up and moving anywhere is always hard. Sometimes its just hard to do because you don't know where to start. Pretty much where I am right now. I know in my heart that leaving is 100% the right thing to do. There is no way for us to ever work things out. We don't even talk and if we do its pretty much " What would you like to eat tonight" I think that may be the only thing we talk about.
But thanks guys for the feedback, I enjoyed reading all your responses.
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