Tuesday, 22 May 2012
I'm 19 and still a virgin (no shame right here). It's not that I'm a prude; I just always felt it should be with someone special. (You can ask my boyfriend--I'm definitely not shy about sexual matters, I just want it to be the right timing.)
Everyone my age has casual random sex and that just seems like an invitation for diseases to me. That and how many pregnancy scares can one girl have before she realizes she should use more protection or just stop having sex?
I mean losing your virginity is supposed to be awkward, right? Why would you do that with a stranger? I'd rather do it with someone I could laugh about it with later. Someone who I could talk it out with and learn how to get better. How do you ever get better or learn good techniques if almost every one of your sexual encounters is with a different guy?
Every single one of my friends has lost their virginity already and they all act like it was no big deal now. But I was there afterwards when they felt guilty or looked like they lost something special. But none of them could tell me why they did it besides "it just happened."
Everyone will say, "wait until you're ready." But how do you know when that is? Especially with this day-and-age where, if you haven't had sex, you must be a prude. So basically everyone is going to look at you like a weirdo until you do lose it. How is that fair?
So what I want to know is how you lost your virginity. Not the play-by-plays, thank you, but how you knew it was the right time. Or did it just happen, like with my friends? Or is it really not a huge deal anymore and I should just bite the bullet?