Saturday, 19 May 2012
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Dreaming of Lost Love While Engaged!
I am engaged to a wonderful guy, and we're getting married in four months. He's everything I was looking for and more. However, I find myself still, occasionally, haunted by the ghosts of lovers past, and this is especially vivid during my dreams.The only real hang-up I have is "my unicorn"--a guy I had feelings towards for over ten years (from ages 15-25, give or take). This guy and I never wound up dating--I was in a long-term relationship for the first half of that time, and during the later half he was studying abroad, in grad school far away, and/or in the Peace Corps. Long story short, we never got together, but I've never felt more powerfully attracted to anyone, physically, emotionally or intellectually. He'll always be under my skin.
So, last night I had a dream about him. I don't remember exactly how it began--we saw each other out somewhere, I think--and we wound up laying on the floor in my mom's living room and talking (and kissing gently) for hours. We had started discussing whether or not we actually wanted to pursue a relationship as I was beginning to wake up.
The last thing I remember in the dream was looking at him, realizing that I finally had him right in front of me, cupping his face in my hands and kissing him. The moment was so tender that it stuck with me for a long time after I woke up.As the dream was ending, my fiancé was stirring in bed next to me. He rolled over and put his arm around me. I snuggled against him, but I was deeply shaken, and I've been thinking about this dream all day.
What does my dream mean? Who else has had a powerful dream about a lost love? Did you learn anything from it? How did you shake it?
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girl, i understand the feeling : / i am in a similar boat, minus being engaged. i'm sure you'll figure it out, good luck : )
Dreams means nothing really. Stick to what you have! I dreamt of my ex a few times, I tried not to make anything out of it. Because that's all it is, an empty thought.
Speaking of lost love. My first love, my ex's birthday is this coming Tuesday. Should I wish her a Happy Birthday or let it be and leave her alone? We ended on a sour note and she is in a relationship now.
Don't think too much of it. It's probably just your subconscious trying to filter out emotions that you had long ago that can resurface to harm your current relationship. In fact, you should share this dream with your finance, otherwise the secrecy might form into guilt over time.
I would guess that you're just getting a bit nervous before getting married, as you only have 4 months left. I wouldn't think about it.
I have dreams of exes all the time, for no reason! So over them.But it happens. You and this guy never were an item. Ever. So why be stuck on him? If you guys were meant for any type of romantic relationship, you had years to do it! So forget him, enjoy your future husband. Love him, be devoted to him! If you can't do that, don't be marrying him!
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you too? jesus, i have "ex" dreams and "unicorn" dreams all the freaking time. my boyfriend basically doesn't show up in my dreams. in fact, none of the people i consider important in my life show up in my dreams except my little brother, and those dreams usually end up in me yelling at dream-brother awake.
From the Dream Moods website:
"To dream that you have a
crush on somebody is a literal reflection of your attraction and
fascination for that person. To see your crush in your dream represents
your current infatuation with him or her. If you find yourself thinking
about him during the day, then it is not surprising that his image will
appear in your dream during the night. If you dream of your crush
frequently, then your dream maybe be telling you that it is time to let
this person know how you feel, especially if you are dreaming of him or
her in a good way. Only good things can happen from you telling your
crush. Even if he or she is not interested, at least you can move on and
stop wasting time on him or her."
The following is something I looked up from dream moods, so maybe this can help you, but I suggest you try looking up dream interpretations yourself for a better consensus on things. Good luck!
You know what? I once dreamed I married my grandfather. It was traumatizing.
I've also dreamed that I was chased by aliens. Equally traumatizing.
Also, my kind, loving, caring, gentle husband has yelled at me and divorced me in my dreams, even though this would NEVER happen in real life.
My point is that dreams are usually not best taken literally, no matter how real or disturbing they may be. If you're marrying your fiance because he is everything you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you have no doubts outside of the dream you've just had, then I say forget the dream and stay with your fiance. If, however, you've been having doubts about HIM--not about getting married--and you're ready to lose him forever, then follow the lead of this dream.
But it seems to me you'd be giving up a lot for a dream that is probably just a reflection of cold feet. Just because I dreamt I married my grandpa doesn't mean I did, and just because you dreamt you were finally with your "unicorn" doesn't mean you should pursue him.
Unless, that is, you're willing to risk losing the man you're currently set to marry. Because I'm pretty sure pursuing your "unicorn" would be a one-way trip.
-Katie
Occasionally I'll have lost loves show up in my dreams. I just try to enjoy it. And I don't ever tell my hubby!
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I think a lot or most people have that person. I'm just gonna say.. I feel ya.