Friday, 11 May 2012
This post was submitted anonymously by a Datingish reader.
I've been dating my boyfriend for over two years. These past few months have been hard for me. I've been extremely unhappy and I honestly don't know what to do.
I moved in with my boyfriend last year. Things in the beginning were going well. We were both happy and it was just a great time for us. I never spent a lot of time with him, so it was perfect for the both of us. As time went on, things changed. We don't have our date nights anymore. My social life suffers because I stay in with him.
I would get panic attacks (something I never really got until meeting him) more often. On top of that our sex life right now is pretty much non-existent. I'm in my mid-twenties but I feel like I'm in my 60s.
I feel like I've done everything I can. We've talked about our issues and have discussed ways we can fix things. However, nothing is being accomplished I feel like. At the end of the day I still feel the same.
The simple solution would be for me to leave. It's not that easy.
For starters, my boyfriend has helped me through a lot of things. I'm not going into specifics, but compared to past relationships he's helped me more than any guy ever has and I know that he will continue doing that.
If I were ever in a bad situation, I know that he will be the first person to be there for me. My family also loves him very much, especially my mom. My mom genuinely cares about him, which is a first. He's done a lot of nice things for her and vice versa. They enjoy his company when he comes over to my mom's house.
I know that all relationships aren't perfect. I know that eventually the "honeymoon phase" ends. I know that it takes work to make relationships work.
What should I do?