Last year at this time, I was breaking up with my fiancé. He was very controlling and lied about dumb things. Our break-up was a good thing but I took it pretty hard, and he hounded me so it was that much worse.
Anyway, I got so depressed and pushed all my friends away for him. I slept and moped. My mom had a friend with a nephew that was single. The guy had been through the wringer with his ex. They got to talking and the next thing I knew, we were texting and going out. We lived about 20 minutes apart but I don't have a car.
We started talking in February and didn't make it official until that July (I had to ask if we were together). He said, "Well yeah, dork." I just figured we were. In August he lost his job and we didn't get to see each other as much. He had another job a week later and started telling me I needed to get a car
so we could see each other. I was a full-time student with a job for an hour after. A car wasn't likely for me.
On September 4th, while I'm in town to surprise him, he posts a song on Facebook about a girl stringing him along. When I text him to have him call me, he texts back saying that it's not working out
. Six pages later he fully explains why and that maybe we can try again in six months. Well, it's been six months and we're talking.
During that "break," we did our own thing and went on dates but texted every day. Then he slowly stopped and I thought okay, I guess I should move on. In December, I started talking to a guy and he starts texting again and says that I must be over him. We're trying again and seeing where it goes. Now we're 45 minutes apart and I'm still a full-time student. We're not together but we're not sleeping with other people either, so he says
I swear up and down I'm not, and that I love him. But I don't really know if he isn't sleeping around or if he loves me.
When I ask him anything emotional, he tries to change the subject or says he misses me but talking about feelings makes him feel weird. He says he doesn't like feeling pushed to.
I try not to talk about them, but why cant he talk to me? He swears I'm not a booty call and that he wants more, but that it's going to take time. Then how does he know I won't just up and leave him?