Last year at this time, I was breaking up with my fiancé. He was very controlling and lied about dumb things. Our break-up was a good thing but I took it pretty hard, and he hounded me so it was that much worse.
Anyway, I got so depressed and pushed all my friends away for him. I slept and moped. My mom had a friend with a nephew that was single. The guy had been through the wringer with his ex. They got to talking and the next thing I knew, we were texting and going out. We lived about 20 minutes apart but I don't have a car.
We started talking in February and didn't make it official until that July (I had to ask if we were together). He said, "Well yeah, dork." I just figured we were. In August he lost his job and we didn't get to see each other as much. He had another job a week later and
started telling me I needed to get a car so we could see each other. I was a full-time student with a job for an hour after. A car wasn't likely for me.
On September 4th, while I'm in town to surprise him, he posts a song on Facebook about a girl stringing him along.
When I text him to have him call me, he texts back saying that it's not working out. Six pages later he fully explains why and that maybe we can try again in six months. Well, it's been six months and we're talking.
During that "break," we did our own thing and went on dates but texted every day. Then he slowly stopped and I thought okay, I guess I should move on. In December, I started talking to a guy and he starts texting again and says that I must be over him. We're trying again and seeing where it goes. Now we're 45 minutes apart and I'm still a full-time student.
We're not together but we're not sleeping with other people either, so he says.
I swear up and down I'm not, and that I love him. But I don't really know if he isn't sleeping around or if he loves me.
When I ask him anything emotional, he tries to change the subject or says he misses me but talking about feelings makes him feel weird. He says he doesn't like feeling pushed to.
I try not to talk about them,
but why cant he talk to me? He swears I'm not a booty call and that he wants more, but that it's going to take time. Then how does he know I won't just up and leave him?
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Why are you wasting your time? He's stringing you along for sex and attention. Let him go. You deserve so much better.
I think he's had enough time to figure out if he wants to be with you or not. He's stringing you along. Drop him.
six pages? there's something wrong with that guy. who is the tall fair Juliet you or her? i can't figure thisout.
oh, he's a loser. lose him.
It shouldn't be this difficult. Either he wants to be with you or not. You being available for him everytime he shows up is not good either.
he sounds like a whiny little bitch.
not worth it.
waste of time. If a guy wants you you'll know. They aren't subtle about it. Get rid of him
He tries to keep you hooked by texting intermittently and keeping you at bay but sure of your availability to him and makes sure you are still available for booty call while he takes his time to find someone he is REALLY interested in. May he get the same treatment back some day from someone he really wants! Lead him on one day and then fail to deliver!
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How can a guy who writes 6 PAGES feel weird talking about things?
First and foremost, stop sleeping with him. If he wants more, he can "take his time" and decide... but not with you as a booty call.
So not worth it. Move on with your life. He's most likely playing the mind game with you.
He should know by now whether he wants to be with you or not. While he could have some sort of feelings for you, he's reaping the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. So for him, there is no need to commit when he can get away with having fun with you without worrying about the emotional side of things. I would decide to move on from him for good. It's not healthy to let someone drag your heart around. As soon as you may have found someone else, he'll keep trying to get back into the picture. It'll be a hurtful pattern you don't need to fall into. I hope things work out for you.
You need someone who won't play games, and someone who will be honest. You owe it to yourself.. it sounds like such a headache to deal with someone who can't even be honest. =\