Friday, 27 April 2012
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Am I Being Played? Or Are Some Guys Just Stupid?
I met a guy a couple nights ago. From the moment I walked into the bar until close, it was just us two. We danced and talked and kissed and just had a nice time.I went to leave and he actually ran after me to get my number. I thought that was sweet and gave it to him. I got home and no more than 15 minutes later, I got a text saying how much fun tonight was. He sent me a goodnight kiss and told me to text him in the morning. Let's just say the morning rolled around and nothing happened.
I waited for a bit, then I decided to text him sometime in the evening. No response or anything, makes you feel like an idiot for even trying. I don't know how drunk he was before he got there, but the whole time at the bar he only had the one drink... I REALLY don't get it.
Why go through all that effort if you don't plan on actually doing anything about it? It just seems weird and frustrating; no girl likes to feel like she's been played.
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- From: Alexoxo
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I wouldn't really call that getting played...he got your number. It's not like he hit it and quit it. Or made you fall in love with him and then just left. He got your number and, as you said, "kissed" and had a good time. -shrugs-
Maybe he got scared?
r u freaking out over this? because if u r, then thats just crazy girl logic. but hey, u must give him the benefit of doubt that maybe he was just busy or didnt realize that, that was ur number because u know how u sometimes exchange numbers and what not then forget to add to contacts. i know since it is a what if statement but given the benefit of doubt, it may or may not be right, but i know for fact since it hasnt even gone 24 hours yet u should not be making a fuss, when in reality ITS JUST A TEXT
guys do that shit all the time. you go to a bar, you meet a guy or a few people & the likelyhood of anything more coming out of that are very slim. & 99% of the time, that's a good thing.
"I got home and no more than 15 minutes later, I got a text saying how much fun tonight was. He sent me a goodnight kiss and told me to text him in the morning.
Let's just say the morning rolled around and nothing happened."
Okie so explain this part. He texted you first and told you to text him in the morning. So in the morning, did you text him as he had mentioned? Or did you wait for him to text you first? Cause if he had told you to text him in the morning, but that morning, you waited for him to text you instead, then you both were waiting on each other's texts and you both probably feel similarly, in which one person flaked out on the other one. In this case, he did mentioned for you to text him in the morning, so if you didn't text him first, then it's actually that you flaked out on him. So when you texted him in the evening, he probably had already let you go.
If you actually had texted him first but there's no response, then cool, he didn't keep his word when he had told you to text him in and morning, but doesn't respond to your text if you actually had texted him in the morning. If he has yet to contact you in anyway or form at this point, then he's an ass and just let it go. So which of the 2 scenarios happened? Did you text him in the morning as he asked you to or not?
Why did I think this was actually about getting played? Why is he stupid because he didn't call you back? If that makes a guy stupid than the majority of the men in the world would classify as stupid.
Tbh -- I'd get pissed if it was a week and he pulled this. It hasn't even been 24 hours. You're over reacting. Did you text him in the morning like he told you to?
oh let it go.. at least he wasn't a huge tease about it for months egging you to hang out and never making a move. worse behavior exists girly.
He was probably drunk off his ass and had no idea who you were in the morning.
@tictact0e0@xanga - she wants advice not to be interrogated. damn nigga
i thought the title of your piece was interesting. the part where you ask "are some guys just stupid" is a rhetorical question, right?
because you know, all guys are stupid. it's just a question of how often we are are morons, and the exact degree of our idiocy.
Whoa you got it bad. LoL. But seriously, if I asked a girl to text me in the morning and she didn't, it would've made me feel as if she's making me put in a little too much work. (Not necessarily saying that that's a bad thing.) But if you two genuinely had a good time, give a little effort each.
Days of playing hard to get are a thing of the past.
That's how guys attract women.
it doesn't seem like that much effort if at all. NEXT!
@mrqtran@xanga - I can either assume things based on what she currently said or really make sure that's really going on so that I can give a proper advice. In either case, I gave her my advice depending on which of the 2 scenarios she meant when she was writing this.
@tictact0e0@xanga - exactly.
@tictact0e0@xanga - i know ur trying to help and all. but it just seems funny to me, like u have a personal agenda to solving these types of problems. not that i dont myself its just seems weird to me that u r leaving her with an ultimatum. asking "which is it, blue pill or red pill" kinda makes me different.
Well, are you really that heartbroken? You shouldn't go into a bar looking for commitment, lol.
@mrqtran@xanga - That's one perspective to view it. The perspective I'm taking with this is like watching a mystery series or some phim bo of some sort, but the producers only have episode 1 through 6, and 9 through 13 available. They forgot to make episode 7 & 8 available for the viewers to watch, resulting in a gap in which the viewers are missing information concerning the mystery of that series. I basically narrowed the situation here to 2 scenarios as to what could have happened and followed up with my deductions, which is your "blue pill vs red pill" take on my comments.
@tictact0e0@xanga - i understand, but judging from your own calculations u gave her an ultimatum, meaning ur saying u have saw through everything and came up with this conclusion that either "red pill is correct or blue pill" u didnt leave the choice of a possible "purple pill" which in my case i said it was neither their fault but, life itself. life takes shapes in many form and sizes, maybe he took a dump and dropped his phone in the toilet, or what if he had forgotten his phone at the house which slept at whether or not he decided to sleep at his house or not. ur forcing her upon only two options and in this case having insufficient information u said u cannot tell. therefore ur calculations and ultimatum uve given her is only based off what u know. i know i go on a lot of what ifs or maybes but u can never be too sure. i'm just saying u havent given him or her the benefit of the doubt. or in simpler terms, there is always a "purple pill" and u lack to surface its color. detective my ass! haha
@mrqtran@xanga - You make a point about the "Purple" pill, but note from what she said, he put the ball in her court. So it's either did she text him or not; 2 choices. My main focus is simply this part, I even quoted the portion of her blog concerning this part. Really, there's only 2 choices. I'm honestly slanted towards her not texting her in the morning, so if that was the case, she should understand why in the end, he didn't respond.
I also pointed out who flaked out on who so here we can apply your analogy with the "Purple pill" idea. So say the Blue pill is she didn't text him and the Red pill is she did text him. If she took the Blue pill, she flaked out on him, purposely or inadvertently. You can attempt to apply your what-ifs about the condition of his phone not being in tact or him not being available, the "Purple pill" idea. However he basically told her to text him in the morning. So by taking the Blue pill, it's understandable if he in the end he flaked out on her, regardless of the "Purple pill" idea.
If she took the Red pill, now the ball is back in his court. So here it's either he intentionally flaked out on her, (Red pill), or he was undergoing circumstances that made it seem like he flaked out on her, (Red pill turning into a "Purple pill" after she took the pill: I say this because in her perspective, she took the Red pill. If he was undergoing a circumstance that unintentionally made him a flake, that's not something she can see, just like the pill turning Purple after she took it). At this point, she texted him back eventually and a couple nights has pass and he has yet to respond, so to me, he's an ass and she should let it go. Whether if he's really an ass is one thing, but it's it's best not to linger so considering him an ass would help that.
Overall, you make an interesting case, but my focus as I had pointed out by quoting that portion of her blog is did she text him in the morning, yes or no; 2 choices. If feel for this part there could be a 3rd choice, then I'll indulge you by saying that she could have possibly had a dream at night that she texted him first.
Yeah, shouldn't be looking for something long term at a bar hun. Glad he ditched you know than somewhere down the line anyway. Guys at bars only want one thing: and it isn't a long term relationship.
@tictact0e0@xanga - i c's ur logic. but u underestimate the power of the "purple pill "
"You make a point about the "Purple" pill, but note from what she said, he put the ball in her court. So it's either did she text him or not; 2 choices. "
"If she took the Blue pill, she flaked out on him, purposely or inadvertently"
understanding that she eliminated her chances of a response from this fellow in the morning because she did not text him is the blue pill correct? at this point she has taken the course of the "blue pill" because she did not text him that morning.
"and the Red pill is if she did text him"
this is where ur wrong. understanding that she DID text him BUT that evening AND NOT that morning meaning she has eliminated the "red pill" no matter what way u propose the idea, the "purple pill" will still stand on its own feet because she in fact did not choose either course (red or blue) u urself pointed out to me something that was in just plain sight, instead a different course, she chose her own path (purple).
i based the "purple pill" off what if's and maybes but which in my case i said it was neither their fault but, life itself. the power of the "purple pill" is life, human inefficiency, human mistakes, human compromises. the "what ifs and maybes" r just ways of adding in these unpredictable and immeasurable human qualities.
the benefit of doubt "purple pill"
maybes "purple pill"
what ifs "purple pill"
human mistakes "purple pill"
human decision "purple pill"
the purple pill is essentially, a wild card, the unknown and known.
Um... He told you to text him in the morning...
" He sent me a goodnight kiss and told me to text him in the morning. "
Then...
"I waited for a bit, then I decided to text him sometime in the evening."
How is this his fault? Are they playing you? No. Sounds like you did the "I'll keep him waiting" game, and then when he didn't fall for it, you wrote a pity post about how you're the victim.
Sorry, calling it at face value.