Tuesday, 24 April 2012
This post has been submitted anonymously by a Datingish reader.
So, I have been hanging out with this guy. He's awesome, funny, great--you know the usual stuff. Now, I know for a fact that he was interested in me before. He used to say things that makes it seem he was into me.
For example, a month ago I was talking about how I wanted a temporary boyfriend (I'm overseas and only in this place for a few months) and he remarked three times that he was a guy and that I could go for him.
When my friend suggested online dating, I said I might do that and he said how he would set up an account so I could look him up. Since it was in public, I was so embarrassed to ask him if he was joking or for real. Last week he even randomly texted me, "I miss you."
But now, I feel like I missed my chance. He's dating currently and keeps asking me about advice about these girls he's been seeing. I heard from multiple sites that the NUMBER ONE way to know if you have been friendzoned is if a guy asks you for girl advice. He also tells me to go for other guys.
We also talk about everything. Family. Sex. (Past) Relationships. Future. Another indicator I heard that if a guy feels free to tell you everything, he sees you as a dude. But then, he calls me "babe" and "cutie," which is an indicator that I haven't been friend-zoned.
When we were drunk three nights ago, we were holding hands and he was putting my hair back against my ear. There was also this guy that was going for me. Even though he did those things, he told me if I wanted to sleep with him, he would go to the other room (because he was bunking with him and I was with the girls).
I told him I was uncomfortable doing that but I wanted to cuddle and suggested cuddling with him. He was up for it but I passed out before I could even get to his bed and my friend put me in her bed.
Pretty much, I'm confused. He's super nice (and I tend to fall for nice guys) plus he's my advisor-ish (only two years older than me though). I feel like he has to care for me and I am mis-reading his signals.
He says things like "you're the coolest person I've ever had to take care of" and randomly when we were hanging out he said "I'm going to miss you when you leave" (but these things were a month ago). I love that he plays with kids/dogs and helps me out with whatever I need help with and that I can tell him anything.
Anyway, I don't have long to be in this foreign country and I feel like I should make my move fast. But if I have been friend-zoned... will it make things awkward? Guys know when they have been friend-zoned...but how does a girl know she has been? Words of advice??
Just an FYI, but for sure I will admit that I like him... I just don't know whether to do it now or right before I leave.