Wednesday, 18 April 2012
After a post I read, a piece written by a woman that talks about how she and her ex-husband/boyfriend had a lesbian experience, I had a serious attitude problem. At that point in time I read enough -- and enough was enough! I read this post and knew nothing about G.I.D (gender identity disorder), or G.D ( Gender Dysphoria); all I read was a man and a woman had a, "Lesbian experience", what? Come on!
If you're born with a penis how the hell can you have a lesbian experience? This is ludicrous! So, I told this woman in a comment, in not so many words that, no, that was not a lesbian experience blah, blah, blah, and then I got bombarded by people who read up on G.D (by the way, the meaning of Gender Dysphoria according to the information I read in reference to Gender Dysphoria is, "-- discontent with their biological sex and/or the gender they were assigned at birth." Wikipedia is where I learned the gist of the difference of G.I.D and G.D) and they bombarded me with all this knowledge they have about this insanity, or so I thought at the time.
I don't like being ignorant and so I read up on it. Without getting too into it (feel free to read that link I provided in the above text if you want to know more), I found that gender can in fact be wired in such a way that causes a man or woman's sexual identity to differ from the sex they were born. And just because a person was born with a vagina or a penis doesn't mean that they are comfortable living in sync with that one part of their anatomy.
"Recent medical research on the brain structures of transgender individuals have shown that some transgender individuals have the physical brain structures that resemble their desired sex even before hormone treatment (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder)."
That one sentence that reads above this paragraph had me thinking twice about my comments and attitude towards the idea of a man thinking he's a woman. If a person born male has the same physical brain structures that resemble their desired sex even before hormone treatment, then who's to say that man hasn't had a lesbian experience in some shape or form? Because of findings such as these, many people have denounced the terms, "Mental illness" or "Disorder" from this phenomena most call Gender Dysphoria.
One of the only and most practiced treatments that I read about was physical modification. Syncing the body with the particular individuals gender identity, opposed to the other way around. And this treatment is really more of a way for someone to feel more comfortable with the identity he/she identifies with, and believes to be.
These are my findings on the subject. Today I read a little bit about the difference between gender and sex because I wanted to educate myself a little more on people who have the right to be who they are. But in many ways, they have and are being ridiculed for doing just that. I give every good human being love and praise as long as they are willing to sit at the same table as me and not judge me for who I am, and what I do.
I guess the main point of what I'm saying is, just because I don't understand something doesn't mean it's wrong or ridiculous. I don't have the right to write off someone else's perception of their gender; I do have a responsibility, at least I think so, to keep an open mind and learn something about other people.
Would you be willing to date someone whose gender differs from their "sexual identity" at different times?