Saturday, 14 April 2012
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Are Most Women Submissive?
Up until recently, I had never really given this question much thought-why would I really care what other women prefer in the bedroom, right? However, I was talking with friends at lunch, and as it typically does, sex became the topic of conversation. But this time was a little different than previous times. This particular conversation was a little more detail oriented.
One of my friends shared that she preferred it when the guy took control, and complained that lately she had been dating more submissive guys, and consequently was left unsatisfied. This came as a big shock to me because I am the complete opposite, and typically have trouble finding partners who DON"T want to take control. Personally, I find that playing the dominant role in the bedroom is much more exciting.
I shared this with the group and out of 5 women, I was the only one who felt this way. I was flabbergasted. I suppose that society is set up in a way that is conducive to this being the norm, but seriously? 1 out of 5? Now I'm kind of wondering if there is something wrong with the way my brain is wired.
I have only been with a few partners but all of them have pretty much attempted to slip into the dominant role. The ones who have not, have seemed reluctant about being the submissive. I think that in order for sex to be good both partners need to be completely into whats going down. Faking it makes the experience empty and unfulfilling. Now I'm just wondering if most women feel this way, or if I just have an extremely traditional group of friends; and if most guys want a girl who is going to be submissive.
So tell me ladies, is it just me or are there other women who enjoy being in control?
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I think there are two easy reasons to say why we often see men in the dom and women in sub roles. First, that's how we are naturally socialized. Women to be submissive, men to be dominant. Second, it's a lot easier to confess these roles given your gender. For a man to admit that he is submissive would say something about his "character" to some as submissiveness is often seen as a female trait.
I've seen a pretty good array of both, and people who like to play switch.
i'm a woman with a pretty strong personality, but in bed i'm personally submissive. my biggest turn on is to know that my guy is getting exactly what he wants in bed. the easiest way to do that? let him tie me up and do whatever he likes to me :D
Different for everyone. Don't think there's a general rule.
My ex and I were pretty equal. Usually neither one of us ever took control, we just went for what we wanted haha. I don't think I would want to be in control, at least not all the time.
I actually kind of prefer to be dominant. The idea of a guy totally dominating me, especially if he's quite a bit bigger than me, is scary to me.
I want what I can't have. if I find out the guy likes being dominant, then oh no, you won't, I want to be dominant one
if he likes being submissive, then, nah uh, I want to be the innocent schoolgirl
then we both fight for dominance and it ignites passionate and rough sexy time
in straight porn, I usually just see the female just lay there
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i like both in extremes. being dominated and dominant.
I like both depends on the person and my mood.
Depends on my mood. I can be either way. Sometimes I want to be dominated... sometimes I want to do the dominating. However due to my past jobs, I was handed the reins to dominating it seemed, guys didn't know what to expect. My current boyfriend likes to be dominant and sometimes submissive so it works out for us both. =)
that picture is kinda hott.
and I love being the sub.
In the bedroom, I like taking turns being in charge and being dominated. But I will never be dominated any other place than in bed.
I prefer guys dominant.
No, I would never say that "most" are submissive. I am, though.
I like to switch it up.
I prefer equality. I don't want to be thrown around like a rag doll nor do I want to feel like I need to make all the decisions.
But yeah, I'd agree that most guys seem to prefer at least slight dominance.
i like a variety. keeps things interesting?
I don't want to be 'dominant'. I don't want her to be 'dominant'. I want both of us to use our imaginations to figure out exactly how awesome we can be TOGETHER in the bedroom.
Honestly, I need both with a partner. I need someone who can easily slip from one to another and enjoy both because I like to be both dominant and submissive. There is a thrill in both for me, and I get bored being submissive all the time and I get frustrated needing to be dominant all the time.
I like both(: Sometimes its fun to take control,and get a power high,but it's also nice to be dominated^^ Not that I've had sex, just in general >.>
It all depends on who you know. I don't know too many women who mostly like to be submissive. I actually know men that are more likely to give it a shot not because they're "sensitive guys" but they're very open to trying new things. I personally need a good balance of both. Some days I want to be handcuffed from behind and slapped and completely helpless. Other days I choke him while riding out an orgasm or I tease the hell out of him and make him do things he never thought he'd say "yes" to.
From the beginning, my husband asked me to be a bit more dominant. He'll return the favor when I ask, but he prefers me in control. I'm content with our preferences.
i like sex to be about love where both people are completely in tune with each other and there is no need for these games
@Shadowrunner81@xanga - THIS.