Saturday, 14 April 2012
Up until recently, I had never really given this question much thought-why would I really care what other women prefer in the bedroom, right? However, I was talking with friends at lunch, and as it typically does, sex became the topic of conversation. But this time was a little different than previous times. This particular conversation was a little more detail oriented.
One of my friends shared that she preferred it when the guy took control, and complained that lately she had been dating more submissive guys, and consequently was left unsatisfied. This came as a big shock to me because I am the complete opposite, and typically have trouble finding partners who DON"T want to take control. Personally, I find that playing the dominant role in the bedroom is much more exciting.
I shared this with the group and out of 5 women, I was the only one who felt this way. I was flabbergasted. I suppose that society is set up in a way that is conducive to this being the norm, but seriously? 1 out of 5? Now I'm kind of wondering if there is something wrong with the way my brain is wired.
I have only been with a few partners but all of them have pretty much attempted to slip into the dominant role. The ones who have not, have seemed reluctant about being the submissive. I think that in order for sex to be good both partners need to be completely into whats going down. Faking it makes the experience empty and unfulfilling. Now I'm just wondering if most women feel this way, or if I just have an extremely traditional group of friends; and if most guys want a girl who is going to be submissive.
So tell me ladies, is it just me or are there other women who enjoy being in control?