Thursday, 12 April 2012
I've had this friend forever. My friend, who shouldn't be named, has been dating her boyfriend for three years. He was sweet and mostly loving towards her. He is her first everything. In January, she found out she was pregnant. When she goes to tell her boyfriend, all he says is, "I don't want to deal with this right now."
Just to be sure, she takes a second test two weeks later and of course, it's still a positive. She considered an abortion and her boyfriend begins to complain about how he'll have to pay for it. So she offers to pay half of it.
As the weeks go on, he is around less and less. All he wants to do is skate and hang out with friends. She tells him that they need to talk alone but he decides having sleep overs with his guy friends are more important. My friend starts to feel guilty after reading that her baby has a heartbeat and Googles the "surgical" abortion only to be shocked at what they'll do to her kid to kill it.
She tells him she needs prenatals because she feels really weak and he complained about her helping "it" (baby).
She tried telling her boyfriend she couldn't go through with it anymore and all he did was complain about how he felt like all the pressure was on him and how "fucked up" it was that she made the decision without him.
The next day he tells her that she's being an ass (moody due to pregnancy) and selfish (for not coming outside in the cold rain to apologize for being an "ass"). He then tells her to get out and drives her home before leaving to Dallas (a trip planned from a year ago). When he gets back, he invites her over while his roommate is gone. There was no food at the apartment so she (and her baby) had to make due for the night.
To this day, he hasn't helped feed his girlfriend much when she's broke. He tells her to go home and have her dad buy her food like it's not his responsibility. He also complains about her getting mad over nothing (mood swings) as if it's all her fault. He just now started to show a tiny bit of concern for her health. I really don't like him but don't know what to say to her.