Monday, 09 April 2012
I was talking to my brother the other day and he told me something that completely surprised me. He said that he had made a deal with his ex that if within one year they didn't fall in love with anyone or were single, they would get married. A thing about my brother and this girl: They dated for three years, their relationship pretty much sucked, and after they broke up they kept in contact with one another and became good friends. They began talking about what they hated about the relationship and came to the conclusion that although they care for one another they are not in love with each other.
Yet they both want to get married someday and have kids. My brother is 27 mind you. Yet he believes love is an irrational emotion that he cannot handle. To defend himself he told me to look at all the couples in today's world that get married out of love, how many of them actually last? He has a good point here I will give him that much credit. So many of today's marriages end in divorce.
Anyway, He believes a marriage of two individuals who are not in love but are great friends will work. We see it in movies and back in the day this was done a lot. But can it really work? I think this kind of marriage will be a very lonely and miserable one. The worst thing is what if one day, you meet that person? The one who you can fall in love with and would want to spend the rest of your life with?
What would you do if that person showed up during your loveless marriage? Infidelity is gonna look really tempting. What's worse is you don't love the person you're with so there is no real commitment. Marriage isn't like a work contract between two people and it shouldn't be viewed as such. It's a serious commitment.
This is the person you are committing to be with for better and for worse. Love is like glue when hell breaks loose and the person you're with is driving you insane. What exactly is stopping you from walking away? Friendship is important in any relationship, but so is love. But this is my opinion, perhaps for other people this sort of marriage can work.
What do you think? Can friends really get married?