I have seen many relationships break off, then down the road the guy comes out to be gay or bisexual. I never thought I would ever see the day where I discovered an ex was looking for a male encounter. Well not too long ago, I discovered that one of my ex's had posted an ad for male sex. Shocked as I am, I just can't help to laugh and wonder 'What the heck..."
While I'm happy that he is out exploring new things, I am also happy that I have nothing to do with him anymore and this new fantasy he has.
Have any of you been in this situation before? If not, how do you think you would react to this news?
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Hate to break it to you, but this "fantasy" of his is most likely not new.
I was going to add something bitchy here, but I'll refrain.
He may have been in the closet. Some gay men do go so far as having sex with women.
Is he hot? Send him my way!
To answer your question though: I'd be pretty hurt & embarrassed by this. I know it doesn't really have anything to do with me, but it still wouldn't feel great to find out my partner went to 'play for the other team'.
I would never be hurt by this. If anything I would feel hurt for THEM. It's rare for someone to simply change shit like that unless they're just fucking around. More often then not they've been feeling these things the whole time and it's not new. Sure I guess it hurts when you learn they might have never been attracted to you in that way but they had to have liked you/loved you in some way to be with you in the first place. I don't know I'd be too busy feeling like shit that they kept that inside them the whole time and tried to push away who they really are by being with me. I'm mostly talking about situations where you find out they're gay. If they're bi or pan well obviously that wouldn't make a huge difference considering they like both genders. They just might not like you.
Well, depending on how the relationship ended...I would probably be thankful that its end had nothing to do with either of us failing as people. We just happened to have incompatible sexual desires.
lol same thing happened to me.. in retrospect though, I should've known - there were red flags that I gladly ignored =P
@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - I completely agree with you. 100%
for me its the other way around. after i broke up with my bf, i was bi, and now, i think i may just be heading for the other direction ;)
Oh apparently my ex turned into a transgender. Some say it was because of me...
@mz_d0rkabl3@xanga - Girls always ignore the obvious tsk tsk hehe.
In high school some girl I got with and never really talked to again turned lesbian after that, was odd but I didn't really care. After I broke with my last ex I thought about posting and saying I was gay (most people think I am anyway), but that would have been mainly to mess with her and get her upset or something. Needless to say I didn't do it.
i've had this happened to me before... I've always suspected 1 of my ex'es to be gay/bi/transgender/not completely straight, tho tho he never came out & said it. It's the saddest thing ever when you can "feel" this vibe.
I think that it would be weirder if your ex decided to get an "operation". honestly, not that surprising when someone decides to either experiment or come out of the closet, whichever it is. I mean this is the age of sexual identity and everyone pretty much wants to get to the point of figuring out where they stand. but to be a man and date women, then to break up with someone after being serious, go get you junk cut off, and then start saying you are a woman is a little more extreme and shocking.
My aunt married a guy that left her for a guy.
She was crushed...
I understand being afraid to come out, but you really should never hurt other people to try and cover it up. You were lucky,
I literally just found out that my ex is gay earlier this week, so it's pretty ironic that there's a post about this. Like others have said, there were red flags and I definitely can't say I'm surprised. It's an ex of several years ago though so it's not like a fresh breakup or anything.
This has nothing to do with changing sexual
identity. He (or whomever, in the past/present/future) changed sexual
orientation. There's a undescribable difference. To suggest they are the same I find insulting.
yeah... i was the guy who "changed" sexual orientations. sucks for my exgf.
My aunt is transgendered and was my uncle until 2009. I believe she finished surgery which apparently she began many years ago (though my family kept it a secret from us.)
I think sexuality is fluid so changing orientation doesn't seem that uncommon or weird to me...I think in the future as gender roles become less strict, this will become more and more usual.
@wretched_epiphany@xanga - Well, at least she knows what she was missing, right?
shit happens. sometimes people dont really know what they truly are attracted to, or even when they do find out that they are gay, they are afraid to come out and try to convince themselves that they are straight and live in denial.
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http://www.shoes4world.com
i agree with @Alex - this was very insulting.
So called "sex changes" are merely cosmetic. Until the DNA of EVERY CELL is altered...now, THAT's sex change. this cosmetic stuff should not be recognized by the courts. It's nothing more than drag.
"Can I watch?"
Two of my "exes" are gay... I'm not surprised in the least, nor am I hurt by it... it explained a lot... LOL