I hate the break-up process. Seriously, it sucks. There are always tears, a lot of emotions, and the resurfacing of past wrong-doings. Either you are the one doing the breaking, which means that you have to have all the answers. Also, in my experience, it also means a lot of late night phone calls are coming your way that you don't really want to answer. (Has anyone realized that you tend to talk to your partner more when you are breaking up than when you were actually together?) And if you are the dumpee...then you are left in the dust, searching for answers. Seldom is it really mutual.
However, breaking-up long distance is a little different. In my experience there are two kinds of long distance, which in turn means two kinds of different break-ups.
The first kind of long distance, which is the most common, is when you live in the same country. You would think that long distance is long distance, but actually living in the same country creates a different kind of relationship. You can call and text this person on your cell phone. They are relatively easily accessible in the event that you need to speak to them...especially when breaking up. When my boyfriend, who lived in a different state, and I broke up there were a lot of phone calls. Too many phone calls actually.
The second kind of long distance is international. Your communication relies almost solely on Skype and the occasional email. Reaching them in an emergency is close to impossible if you are expecting immediate results. And actual phone calls and texting? Forget it. So the break-up process here is much different, but very absolute. When I decided to finally call things off with someone overseas if took a lot of soul-searching, but the process was so much simpler. A single Skype session. One follow up email. And then, nothing.
Readers: Have you ever broke up with someone long distance? Did you find the process to be easier or harder than breaking up with someone you lived in close proximity to?