Wednesday, 28 March 2012
Let me start by giving a brief introduction to my predicament. I have been dating this man for about 2 years now. Let's call him Matt. He is the ideal person I am looking for in just about every way. When it comes to him alone, I am content. And for me, that is saying A LOT!
However, with him comes all his baggage; an ex-wife, a teenage daughter, and an ex-girlfriend who also happens to be his sister in law. It's a complete mess. I have come to terms with the whole wife and kids drama. The ex-wife has kept her distance and completely respects our relationship. That isn't my problem anymore.
At the beginning of our relationship we agreed that we would have no contact with our exes or anyone we slept with. But now, the ex-girlfriend is in the picture for good, because she is now the sister of my boyfriend Matt's brother's new wife. If that isn't confusing enough, Matt was now given the opportunity to be the godfather of this ex-girlfriend's cousin's baby. Everyone is one big grand ole family here, and I can't stand it!
On the other hand, I can't possibly tell him to turn down being the godfather. It sounds a bit selfish. I know there isn't anything he can do about it, because his ex-girlfriend is now his sister in law, and the ex-girlfriend's cousin is now his family. But heck, we're getting married in a year. Shouldn't I have a say in anything? I don't want to leave the relationship because of them, because aside from them I have no issues with him at all.
My question to you guys is, how do I possibly get past this excessive baggage? Is it up to me to just 'get over it'?