Monday, 26 March 2012
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The Muppet Man and Reconnecting with the Past
If you'll recall my post on texting blunders, I made mention of a certain text that was sent to a certain individual about his level of attractiveness prior to our very first meeting. We went on two dates after that and he joined my 5-week long swing classes. (Awkward.)I call him the Muppet Man simply because he is a very huge fan of the franchise, and when I was internet-stalking him before our date, his Fb profile picture was of him with a Muppet. Thinking back, he kind of looks like one—weird, flailing body movements, stringy hair, big eyes, petite mouth.
Anyway, he was one of those "industry" types. You know the ones—"Oh, I'm a writer. Oh, I'm working on a screenplay. Oh, I'm just finishing up a treatment for submission. Oh, blah blah blah." Most of our conversations consisted of his banking job and his personal writing projects he struggled to get off the ground.
Eventually, inevitably, our conversation dwindled around the holidays, and our interactions at swing class slowly faded away too. By the beginning of the year, he became part the past, dropped the class, and I happily forgot about the whole thing....
Until he emailed me last night, mainly updating me on what he's been doing and where he's been the last three months and if I wouldn't mind editing a screenplay for him. No how are yous. No what have you been up tos. Just, hey, this is where I am and do you want to do me a big favor?
I hear a lot of talk lately about people suddenly going from best friends/lovers to someone they used to know. Just like that. Bam. Now I know him. Now I don't.
It seems strange to me that a person who was so involved in your life for whatever length of time can suddenly become a stranger. I simply don't understand it. Unless things were left in a hostile state, the possibility or opportunity to reconnect with someone will still be there assuming both parties would be interested in that. I've had it happen a number of times and most have been pleasant experiences. It may not be the same relationship as it was prior to any split, but it's a connection to be happy about nonetheless.
In the case of the Muppet Man, though things weren't hostile, there was no mutual desire to carry things on into a relationship or develop a friendship. And while I admire his efforts to reach out, I can't say yes.
Have you ever had an ex or a friend creep their way back into your life after you thought they were long gone? Was it good or bad? What did you do? Have you thought of reconnecting with someone from your past too?
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Pft don't edit this screenplay for him.
He doesnt care about your wellbeing. Besides that, no ones ever done that except when an old best friend wants a favor, except they sugar coat everything, they're "happy" to see me and they ask all about my adventures and my life.Oh yeah, I haven't had that necessarily happen with someone I like, but "friends" have done this to me.
Just when I think they're no longer in my life, up pops my birthday and they send me a "Happy birthday" text after not talking to me for 7 to 8 months. I caught up with her and we planned on hanging out and she was going to see my new dog but it never happened.
That's the whole reason why I stopped talking with her because she's one of those people who acts like she's too busy to do anything, yet she has time to hang out with her neighbors at her apartment. If she has time to chill at her neighbor's house for a few hours, she has time to see my new dog at my house. My house is only a 10 minute car ride away, too. I always say people are never too busy for anything. If they take the time out of their day to watch an hour television show, they can have time to hang out with you, they're just lazy and only feel like doing things when it's convenient for them.
She planned on seeing my dog at the beginning of february and she still hasn't come by to see her. I sometimes update her on my job status for small talk because we might work in the same building, but other than that, I haven't tried to keep in contact with her.
We used to make plans for each other's birthday since we were basically 3, but then we had a falling out and I didn't bother to wish her a happy bday because she wouldn't be including me in her plans, then she just suddenly says that to me when it's my day and she says she's not bitter that I didn't say anything to her, lol.
I'm only mad at the fact that she's the type of person to plan something and it won't happen unless a few months even almost a year passes.
@crashthedr3am@xanga - I couldn't believe he chose that as his way to reconnect. Blows my mind. I've had friends like that too. =\
@Anon - I've had similar things happen with friends! Most of the time those aren't the ones I feel are worth my time and effort. I've drifted apart from a few close friends because of this, but I was tired of being just someone they called on when they needed help or when they were bored or wanted to vent but weren't willing to be there for me. We have a long life! People come and go. Those who are worth it will stick with us till the bitter end.
Yeah, that happens sometimes. I don't see it as a bad thing---I actually look at it as flattering sometimes (haha). I had an ex who broke up with me (not the other way around), and six months later he came back into my life because he said he missed our conversations. We're just friends now (I have a boyfriend), but our friendship seems healthy. Hah, it may come back to bite me in the *** though. Only time will tell.
A lot of people I knew in high school / college still have my number and give me a call out of the blue. I always agree & try to find some time to catch up because I'd want people to make the time for me should I ever do the same (although I can't say that I have.....yet).
"Muppet Man" sounds funny - which muppet? (Animal?)
my preference is to never speak to a past hook-up ever again. i make it pretty clear when we're done that she's not to contact me. it's only ever happened twice...the first girl i ignored, the second one i pretended not to recognize the phone number, and fake-guessed it was another girl.
i've only ever once contacted a past hook-up, when i was in her town. we made plans to meet (i had other friends coming too) but i changed my mind and decided i didn't want to see her...so i told her that it was probably not worth her time to come cause i was going to be busy with a lot of other friends. she didn't respond and i haven't spoken to her since.
i didn't always have this opinion, but i think with this kind of thing, it's better to let the past stay in the past.