Monday, 26 March 2012
If you'll recall my post on texting blunders, I made mention of a certain text that was sent to a certain individual about his level of attractiveness prior to our very first meeting. We went on two dates after that and he joined my 5-week long swing classes. (Awkward.)
I call him the Muppet Man simply because he is a very huge fan of the franchise, and when I was internet-stalking him before our date, his Fb profile picture was of him with a Muppet. Thinking back, he kind of looks like one—weird, flailing body movements, stringy hair, big eyes, petite mouth.
Anyway, he was one of those "industry" types. You know the ones—"Oh, I'm a writer. Oh, I'm working on a screenplay. Oh, I'm just finishing up a treatment for submission. Oh, blah blah blah." Most of our conversations consisted of his banking job and his personal writing projects he struggled to get off the ground.
Eventually, inevitably, our conversation dwindled around the holidays, and our interactions at swing class slowly faded away too. By the beginning of the year, he became part the past, dropped the class, and I happily forgot about the whole thing....
Until he emailed me last night, mainly updating me on what he's been doing and where he's been the last three months and if I wouldn't mind editing a screenplay for him. No how are yous. No what have you been up tos. Just, hey, this is where I am and do you want to do me a big favor?
I hear a lot of talk lately about people suddenly going from best friends/lovers to someone they used to know. Just like that. Bam. Now I know him. Now I don't.It seems strange to me that a person who was so involved in your life for whatever length of time can suddenly become a stranger. I simply don't understand it. Unless things were left in a hostile state, the possibility or opportunity to reconnect with someone will still be there assuming both parties would be interested in that. I've had it happen a number of times and most have been pleasant experiences. It may not be the same relationship as it was prior to any split, but it's a connection to be happy about nonetheless.
In the case of the Muppet Man, though things weren't hostile, there was no mutual desire to carry things on into a relationship or develop a friendship. And while I admire his efforts to reach out, I can't say yes.
Have you ever had an ex or a friend creep their way back into your life after you thought they were long gone? Was it good or bad? What did you do? Have you thought of reconnecting with someone from your past too?