Sunday, 25 March 2012
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How to Get a Man
So, I’ve been trying to tutor my little 12-year-old friend on getting a guy since she “fell in love with one” and her mother is not a mother, is completely horrible, and doesn’t help her with pretty much anything.
I probably should have archived them for people or my kids or something.
But here’s a few that stand out in my mind.
Because a lot of people are alone in Columbus. But there’s probably a good reason you’re alone.
#1. Quit being a slut. A man, even if he is a pig, has standards and does not want to be with you if just put out for everyone. Why would he buy milk IF HE GETS THE COW FOR FREE. Plus, it’s just unclean and you have a sense that you’re desperate and needy as hell. Don’t have sex for a while (like at least 3-6 months people, but I’d wait longer) because any respectable man that you actually want to be with (in America anyway) will appreciate you wanting to know more about him than his penis.
#2. Girls like to manipulate men. STOP MANIPULATING MEN. This is why men are dicks, and why men make more bitches. Like with my friend. There’s another boy that likes her, and she wanted to flirt with that boy to make the guy she liked jealous to make him “admit his love and come to her.” NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO! (NIEN!) Her mother even told her to do this! I was like, "How many times has your mother been married? 3 times? EXACTLY." Most men are not going to get jealous and come to you. He’s going to LEAVE and let you have him, since he’s worth your time. Let your man know you like him. BE UPFRONT AND STRONG. Men like women like that.
#3. Most men like women that are self-confident and don’t cry about how much they suck all the time. Gentlemen realize that you’re a woman and you PMS and you hurt and get irritated, but you can’t act like that all the time. That’s too much. Stop being a bitter bitch. That’s not going to get you ANYWHERE.
#4. Tell the guy what you actually mean. He knows “I’m fine” is at least American for “I’m so pissed right now.” Men obsess over things more than women do, and it drives him insane.
#5. Sometimes it’s not you. It’s the men in the area, but honestly, knowing women, this is rare.
Those are all I can think of right now…but I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for 3 years. I love all my haters.
Can you think of any others?
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She's twelve uh have her bring him milk and cookies during nap time, doubt they're going to be in the most serious relationship.
I felt like I was being screamed at for a good few minutes while reading this post.
Anyways, I dislike that you basically just implied that women who have more sex are worth less as girlfriends. The quality of a person has nothing to do with his/her sex life.
How to get a man- Be attractive. That is all.
I hope you didn't tell her to wait 3-6 months to have sex since she's 12. She should at least wait till she's older and ready. I can't imagine having been ready to have sex at 12.
I like how #3 encourages women to suppress their emotions and not show when they're upset, and #4 tells women to use more honest communication.
Perhaps, women are lying and saying that they're "okay" out of fear that if they open up to their partner, their feelings will be invalidated and blamed on "bitchiness" or "PMS".
Some people are alone by choice. Maybe instead of focusing on "getting a man" you should encourage others to surround themselves with happy, healthy relationships. Relationships actually aren't games and there isn't a set list of rules on how to maintain them.
Some of this was common sense and other parts like #1 made me almost think this was a joke. Especially with the fact that this post started because of a convo with a 12 yr old.
It really kind of bothers me that you used "Is American for" as if 'American' is a language. -.-
as per the first two suggestions, this 12 year old can't get the guy she's into because she's a slut and manipulates men. i know kids these days are hooligans and won't get off my lawn, stupid whippersnappers, etc, but this seems a little out of touch with reality.
Is number one really saying to hold out for three to six months or you're "slutty"?! Are you kidding me?
I am 24 and have not had sex...I trust you are not telling her to have sex yet...right?
As it pertains to my girlfriend, I appreciate that she has self respect and a healthy self-image. I affirm her for her physical beauty and her mental, emotional, spiritual beauty as well. The best part is that she does not NEED my words. She has an identity of herself that was established before she met me. If you are encouraging this young lady, helping her to realize her beauty, both in and out, is important.
Also, love her. If you show her love and she loves herself, she will not go searching for love in the arms (or pants) of some sleezy creepy guy.
I stopped listening to the advice after the screenshot from that god awful movie.
@Ellelarien@xanga - In some ways, she's right. Only American women do this.
@Kazydai@mancouch - Well that's entirely not true. I'm Australian, we do it too. I know people in Singapore that do it, New Zealand, the UK.
Did you remember to check under your nose?
reconsider who you friendzone.
seriously.
fold origami stars, put them in a jar and wish upon a star. then hope jiminy cricket appears on your window sill to sing and tap dance his magic to make all of her dreams come true
if he doesn't grant the wish, then squish him with a shoe.
I'm offended by number one--don't be a slut. So does that make it okay for men to be sluts?
I think the word "slut" is inappropriate and should only be applied to women who ARE paid professional prostitutes.
Maybe you should say instead, "Don't sleep with him too early in dating."
And comparing women to cows is also insulting. Even though it's just an analogy.
I'd laugh if you really did *overwhelm* the 12 year old girl with the advice given in items #1-#5. It's not like she'd truly understand what you were talking about due to less likely having relatable experiences and knowledge -- at her age -- to comprehend said advice.
Furthermore, NONE of the above advice is immediately helpful; they don't specifically tell her what to do or say.
@LightBlue21@xanga - I'm proud of your second paragraph. Well said. People should stop attacking women by the number of partners they have when men aren't judged by that at all. It's the 21st century. Let's progress, not regress.
Are you for real? You're tutoring a 12 year old on how to get a guy?
1. Men can be just as slutty as women, it's just more socially acceptable. If a girl enjoys sex, she shouldn't be shamed for it. Ones sex life is certainly NONE of your business.
2. "Girls like to manipulate men. STOP MANIPULATING MEN. This is why men are dicks, and why men make more bitches."
I mean, what the hell is that?
3 & 4 seem to contradict each other. Great job there!
Rofl @ the comment "give her milk and cookies..."
@voicimessecrets@xanga - #3 doesn't necessarily say to suppress emotions... It just says to treat those emotions the way an adult does by not bitching and being a pill about it. I know it takes strength to overcome those emotions, and it might be a tough expectation for a group of people that we infantilize all the time... But I think it's a reasonable expectation.
first a 12 year old shouldnt be having sex. second whether you wait one night or one year, how early you have sex does not define the relationship. theres no such thing as a slut.
She's twelve. Maybe part of the reason her mother isn't telling her how to get a guy because she doesn't think it's appropriate for her to have one yet?
My advice? You don't need to even worry about serious relationships until you're at least out of high school. After that, be yourself, and keep working on becoming a better version of that self. That's how you become the best person you can be, and it's what will eventually attract a worthy partner.
I'm a slut because I didn't wait three months to fuck the guy I've been with for almost three years?
Wow. This post is a joke. Guys don't give a flying rat's ass if you give it up to him on the first date*. Girls are the only ones who actually care.
*If you want to "win" a guy over, try wowing him with, oh, i don't know, you're awesome personality. Jesus.