A few weeks ago my friend Jane told my other friend Ashley that she had begun to have feelings for one of Ashley's ex-boyfriends. Initially Ashley told Jane that she was accepting of the union, because it had been years since Ashley and Matt broke up. She wasn't still in love with him by any means and they both remained on friendly terms, so she did not feel there was any logical reason to deny her friend happiness.
However, after Ashley gave Jane the green light to see Matt exclusively, something changed. Ashley wasn't experiencing a surge of feelings for her former flame, but she began to feel like Jane had disrespected her. Matt was Ashley's first boyfriend: her first real kiss and they lost their virginity to one another, so they were each other's "first everything". As Ashley began to dwell on the subject more, she felt like Jane was insensitive to the fact that Matt and Ashley had once been in love.
Logically, Ashley felt like her feelings weren't justified. And even though Matt and Ashley's relationship is over and there are no harsh feelings, I had even told Ashley that I thought there was something wrong about Jane wanting to start seeing Matt. The only way I could verbalize it was that I thought there was something almost incestual about it. I thought that Jane was crossing boundaries and jeopardizing her long-term friendship with Ashley for a man. A man, no less, that knows Ashley (in the biblical sense).
So Ladies, Gentlemen: Would you ever date a best friend's ex? Do you think that there is something wrong with dating one of your friend's exes?Image Source