Friday, 23 March 2012
Is it wrong for me to think people can be faithful? Why can’t a girl have a friend that is a guy, or why can’t a guy have a friend that is a girl? Is it really that hard to do?
When I think about this I realize that people do cheat. I know that I been there before with guys, but the one thing I learned from that wasn’t the best way to spy on your boyfriend, but to truly be with someone who you know isn’t going to cheat on you. I trust my boyfriend. I really do, and if I ever thought he was cheating then I would do something about it. I wouldn’t be thinking every day that he is cheating unless something happened that made me believe otherwise.
For instance today I wanted to go out with a male friend of mine to see his new car that he won on the lottery. My boyfriend was not comfortable with this, and I can see why he would be like that, but I also feel like this other guy is just showing me a car. My boyfriend shouldn’t see the red flags that fast and if he doesn’t trust me enough to do that it makes me wonder how he truly feels about me. Like if the situation was reversed I honesty would be okay with that because I trust him. I know if something happened I trust him to be able to handle it on his own.
There are definitely things that are not okay to do in my book with a friend of the opposite sex. Things like going to a dinner alone together, going to a bar together, or a movie; things like that are red flags. But a simple meeting in the middle of the day for coffee or something is innocent. To me if you can’t trust someone to do things like that then I don’t understand why you're with them.
Why are we prone to not trusting our significant others? Have you ever experienced a lack of trust in your relationship?