One of my best friends is seeing a guy who we jokingly call "Marathon Man". The thing is that he isn't really the athletic type at all, but he likes to "go the distance" so to speak.
While they are in bed together he tries to make it last as long as possible. And apparently that is pretty long. She says that every time they have sex it lasts an upwards amount of at least 45 minutes. This is without fore-play. She says the foreplay itself lasts about fifteen minutes. So I am talking about forty-five minutes of penetration.
Which, unless you have a penis, is just too damn long.
My two best-friends and I agreed that the actual sex act should last at the very most twenty minutes. And if there was enough foreplay, then cut that number in half. In fact, we all agreed that we would rather have more individual sex acts than long hours of love-making. Why? We get tired. There is no reason "to go for hours". Really. Let's go for fifteen minutes, watch a little television, drink some water, have an Oreo, and then go again. Plus. You men get more orgasms that way.
Ladies, Gentlemen: What do you think? How long do you think sex should last?
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I'm a guy. More times for a fairly short time each round sounds okay to me!
I didn't think there was a timer for sex lol I can just imagine a timer going off and the girl going "okay you can finish now its been too long"
In all seriousness, why are you worrying about time? Sex is for enjoyment with your partner, there shouldn't be a time limit.
I guess then it depends on every individual. You only get tired or sore if you're not aroused enough (according to my onw personal experience) yet aain I've only had sex with one man in my life, and sex could go from a quiky before work to a 7 hours session (granted that time I was sore). But normally we lasted within 40 minutes to one hour and as it was being pleaseant for both, I didn't mind one bit.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - lol. I talked to a guy who was with a prostitute. She lit a cigarette and said, "When that's done, so are you".
Wow. 20 minutes for sex? Coming from a woman, I really don't know if I'd be satisfied. If i'm not turned on at all, maybe I would want you to GTFO after that amount of time but if I'm really into it....lets go for an hour, definitely. I'm with the above. It can either be a quickie, or it can last several hours, for me. In my current relationship, it's been up around the two hour mark and we've both been satisfied with that (he was tired after that, fyi. i was ready to go for more) but in a past relationship with another woman...we could definitely go off and on having sex throughout the night without complaints from either side fairly frequently. I have to wonder how attracted you guys are to your partners, seriously. I'm an incredibly sexual person, I admit. I'm not all about sex in my relationships but like someone else said, it's a very enjoyable act to me and I can't imagine saying "oh, this is how long it SHOULD be..." Anyways, that's my two cents. I prefer a marathon man over a one minute wonder man.
As long as it's not hitting close 2 hours every time, I'm fine. Quickies are fun. Having sex with breaks is fun... but if it's non-stop, GTFO me if we're at it well over an hour.
It isn't the length, it's the ability to have multiple repeats. A healthy man can go all night over and over and over. But usually the woman wears out or gets sore.
So be patient and just let the man's energizer bunny recharge. It takes about 10 - 15 minutes.20 minutes are for quickies, no? Seriously, 20 minutes isn't enough time for a girl to get off and we all know that it's just good manners to have ladies go first =P
As for being sore, I think it might have more to do with him jackhammering her than the length of sex time.
I can't say there should be a specific amount of time for sex, but no foreplay is sad, no wonder you were counting the minutes. If it is uncomfortable and/or hurts, of course one would not want it to last. Not every encounter will be the same, therefore I can't put a time limit on it. Sometimes, a few minutes before work is enough, sometimes 20 to 35 minutes other times more than 45 minutes. However, I wouldn't want to be at it continuously for more than hour--I'd need a break from it.
20 minutes is enough for me. Proceeded by 30 mins of foreplay. And what??! Who are these men who can go over and over? They must be like 18. Somebody introduce me. Maybe if you had all day and could spread out 5x in a 16 hour period, but most people don't have that kind of time. I've read that 30 mins-1 hour is the optimum recovery time for a man, so you can't hop on and go again 15 minutes later. Of course my boyfriend turns into Rip Van Winkle as soon as we're done so going a second time is very rare.
LOL, all this talk about sex reminded me of Flight of the Conchords:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGOohBytKTU
2 minutes is apparently how long business time should last. So intense...zzzz
I think, if you're trying to find a "correct time" you might be doing sex wrong.
@yeahyeahyeah05@xanga - I lol'd. So hard.
-thinks back to a year ago-
Now, with women I encounter, its just pounce and bounce. I'm too busy for anything more.I can always go another round. there was this one time I had a chick over and we didn't go anywhere, canceled hanging out with friends, etc, because we had sex about 3 times that day and were too lazy to put clothes on.
Those were the days.
Sex should last until I achieve my orgasm(s). lol! Thankfully, I orgasm pretty easily and quickly with nary an effort.
15 min is enough. i usually climaxed several times by then and start to get hungry. lol
Um well I've been having sex 10yrs now and on average it takes me 45mins to an hour of penetration to finish and usually I'm not soar afterwards.
5 secs
To each his/her own. I can sympathize with you. Not only do I get bored after a certain amount of time, but my hoo hah starts hurting to the point that it's not even enjoyable anymore.
I could kiss for a very long time though:3 Sex? Meh.
Sometimes I like 10 minute sex. Sometimes I like sex that lasts for hours. Depends on my mood.
Oh myyy. How long should sex last? Until both of you are satisfied and happy.
My feelings are probably a little different since I'm addicted to sex, but most of your responses range between 5 seconds to 45 minutes. Sex should last as long as we're both into it... and for me, assuming the man knows what he's doing is pretty damn long. Keep it going!
Everyone is different...I personally love that my man and I can go for hours together. We rarely take breaks in between longer than the time it takes to change position. Even our "quickies" are more than 20 minutes.
I think about 12-15 minutes is optimal. 5 minutes is okay for a rough quickie, and 20-25 is okay if it's not just straight up pounding the entire time and we slow down to kiss and touch a bit.
Lol but yeah I'd say 20 minutes of just intercourse is too much. It always feels AMAZING, but I literally get too exhausted by the pleasure if it goes on too long.
45 minutes isn't that long... thats our (being my boyfriend and I) average. We have been together 9 years.
We have sex shorter and longer sometimes, but the normal is 45 minutes.
This is the first time I've heard a woman who would have a problem with or complain about a man with great stamina! Sheesh! Some of y'all are never satisfied!
@heart_leigh@xanga - omg YES! We don't finish until I finish! hahaha