Friday, 23 March 2012
Technology can either help us or hinder us. Here's what baffles me: I've had guys tell me flat out in the beginning that they aren't much of a phone person. (My ex only called me once during the eight months we dated and that was because my favorite necklace fell down the drain.)
Well, that really leaves any conversation when you're apart to text messaging, instant messaging, or emails (how old fashioned!). So, if we're replacing the whole idea of phone calls with these hard-to translate forms of communication, shouldn't the etiquette be the same?
Okay, some rules should be bent. I don't expect responses right away if I know the other person is at work or out with friends. I don't expect a response early in the morning if the other person is a late-riser either. If I send a picture of myself, however, (and a modest one, mind you!) I expect some sort of response eventually. Doesn't have to be right away. Doesn't have to be in the hour. But at some point in time, a response.
I think what irks me most is sudden silence after a handful of pretty quick responses. Where did you go? We just spent ten minutes talking about how we're lazily in our own beds watching Storage Wars. Barry's about to get a shrunken head appraised and you've disappeared on me.
If we were in bed together and watching this whole shrunken head debacle and I asked you a question about your plans for the day, and you suddenly sprang up from the bed and left only to return two days later and say you're not up to much, I'd be a little peeved.
If we were sitting in a restaurant and I asked you how things were going after you received some terrible news and you didn't say a word and we sat there in silence and the restaurant closed and people were mopping the floor around us and just as the sun rose and the restaurant opened for a lunch crowd you told me you were okay, I'd be a little freaked out.
I understand these are mobile phones, which means they can go with us anywhere and we can respond at our discretion. There needs to be some common courtesy, though. It doesn't take much effort to say you're busy or don't feel like talking or in class or at work, etc. etc.
What do you think? Should there be some texting etiquette?