Monday, 19 March 2012
I realized after all this time, that my concept of dating has been wrong. I always believed that people should get to know each other before dating and going out and such, but I learned that the complete opposite is true. By engaging in physical contact first, you can find out if you want to pursue further.
Some background on the type of person I was: I wanted to enter a relationship so badly that I refused to do hookups or anything of that sort. I believed that once I'm in a relationship I can do what I want. So after going on a dry spell for 8 years of not kissing anyone, I decided to do something different. I decided to try out the dark side.
Having not kissed anyone in 8 years, I decided that I would take the chance if I had it to hook up with a girl, or make out. I got the chance one night at a club. I met a girl at a club and we danced. As we danced, we got closer and closer until there was practically no space between us and we were cheek to cheek. I decided that this was as good a chance as any to swoop in for a kiss. Instead of being the usual prude who never gave into his primal desires and physical arousal, I took the plunge. It was pretty sweet. The next time we met up was when I learned I had it wrong this whole time.
We went clubbing again and made out some more and as we got closer, we decided to meet up again next week. So basically, we've been meeting up ever since. We basically act like a couple while not having the label of one. This was a total flip around from the way I've been living and possibly the best decision I've ever made in regards to dating.
By hooking up and following up with it, we've gotten closer and are progressing in our relationship. I don't know if we'll be boyfriend and girlfriend, but having someone to make out with, hold hands, and hug in public sure as hell beats being alone with rules and resolutions that only hold you back from an exhilarating experience. Stopping myself from kissing someone and engaging in physical pleasure is a fallacy I truly regret. So for those who believe that you shouldn't kiss or be physical with someone you're not in a relationship with, you are missing out.
I've never been felt so alive. It's exciting and novel. Try it. Add some excitement to your boring single life. Screw those rules and resolutions because you don't know how awesome or bad something is until you try it yourself. Don't live by assumptions of wrongness. Experience yourself to know whether you want to avoid it or not.
What do you think about hooking up before a relationship?