As I mentioned in a previous post about dating rules, I always offer to pay for my part of a date--once to be polite and another time to show I'm sincere. For the most part my dates had appreciated that and were happy to foot the bill anyway. Only a couple of times has that ever back-fired on me.
I went on a date with this really cute web designer I had met online. We weren't the highest of matches, but those things can't always be accurate. We both expressed a love for records, so he had planned to take me to a shop in LA for the afternoon.
I was having a lovely time, though a few things caught my attention. He would reprimand me for picking up records costing more than five bucks and he was always digging through the clearance bins on the floor. When I was ready to check out, he was deciding which $2 record he should put away and which ones he really needed. I kept thinking, it's only two bucks! Go wild and get all of them!
We stopped at a little Italian restaurant on the way home and enjoyed a glass of wine. We each ordered a house wine--nothing out of the ordinary and certainly nothing to break the bank. When it was time to go, I did my little dance around the check... only this time he stopped me.
Instead of saying, "No it's okay, you don't have to pay for your $7 glass of house wine" he said, "Yeah, sure." I was stunned a bit and told him I only had a card, ignoring the bills I did have in my wallet. He said it was okay and handed me a ten while I charged the drinks. I was embarrassed, having had that whole exchange happen in front of the bartender.
I'm all for helping out with a bill, especially when I know it's a big one, but a $7 glass of wine? Yikes.
How do you usually handle paying on dates or in your relationship?