My ex-boyfriend, who I was in a relationship with for three years, recently called me to say that he would be coming to town for a long weekend. Since our break-up a little more than two years ago we have kept in contact mildly. Every few months we have a quick phone chat and we get coffee once a year when I am back in my hometown during Christmas.
His new girlfriend, the first serious relationship he has been in since me, broke up with him two months ago. He took it very hard and is still trying to pick up the pieces. We have been in more and more contact the last few months because he feels like he can trust me. And, I imagine, because he is lonely.
I was a little surprised when he called me the other evening telling me he was coming to my city, and then asked if he could stay with me. I told him that he could. I mean, we are friends, right?
Ever since I told him that I was fine with him staying with me, I have been getting some less than cryptic texts from him of the sexual variety. Things like: "I miss feeling you next to me", "I can't wait to hold you", and "I can't stop thinking about you". There's also been a lot of the "Remember when..?" game going on, mostly alluding to our sexual past.
I am excited to see him, but I am afraid that he is placing an expectation on me that I am unable, or unsure if I want to fulfill. I am currently in an open, trans-Atlantic "thing" with another man, and I plan on moving to Europe within the year. I am seeing other men in my current city right now, but I feel like sleeping with my ex is crossing a boundary.
I was really in-love with my ex and I feel like by sleeping with him, it could possibly reawaken feelings on either side. I feel like this could ruin what I have going on overseas, even though we have agreed that while we are not in the same country we can see other people. I know my ex and I are not looking to get back together, but he says that he just wants to "spend time" with me.Have you ever slept with an ex? Is it ever "just sex" if you are sleeping with an ex?