Growing up, I was always the quiet and indecisive one. I did what I was told, never really went out, and definitely did not party. It was not until senior year that I did something against my parents' wishes. I was the baby of three girls, I was in marching band, all gifted classes and held down a job. Except it was that year when things changed. I met this guy who struck my fancy for a while and he was a great guy. But after a while, I got bored.
When we broke up, I let my inner wild child loose.
When I went to college that fall, I went crazy. I let the freedom get to me. I went out on Wednesday nights, skipped my calculus class, and was not being as good of a girl as I used to be. The next summer, I met two different guys. One at a house party, the other through a new guy friend interested in my best friend.
Let's just say I chose wrong. I chose the bad boy. I chose the one who would eventually break my heart.
He had piercings, smoked, and drove way too fast. When I was with him, I wasn't the good girl. I felt wild and like I could do anything.
Once the summer started winding down, he broke my heart. While it took a long time for the pieces to mend, he taught me so many things about myself. He helped me realize that I am actually stronger than I thought. I learned to have a voice and make choices for things that I want. While it did not work out with him, it helped me in the end because now that I am older and have met a good guy, I know that I want something more with it.
Being with the bad boy was like a drug high, so good but you knew that the crash would be imminent and painful.
Did any of you ever choose the bad boy?
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I did once, never again.
Bad boys are fun, as long as you don't take them seriously.
No. I don't live in a cliched movie...
i always say i will pick the bad guy, cause they are fun. and i always end up keeping the good one, and then i end up cheating on them, multiple, multiple times, breaking their heart, and once again alone and bored
The older I get, the more I am starting to understand that most girls go for the bad boy not just for sex, but to escape the daily grind that comes with being the good girl or being portrayed as such. It's a chance to simply let your hair down with someone. And it's not that you don't like the good ones. It's just that you wish they had an element of rick and danger that makes love or life in general seem so fun. So, I most definitely understand why you choose to fall in love with them.
When it comes to be and the bad girl, I pretty much just keep my distance. Scope them out before falling in love with any of them. If I do fall in love with them, it isn't because I don't like the good ones. I mostly do it because of the good ones. Because I've dated my share of good girls that have kind of let me down, dating the bad girl didn't really seem all that carcinogenic to me.
As for the part about dating someone knowing you'll get your heart broken, well I think it kind of helps to be at a point where they can't really crush it any further. Broken hearts are known to make you tough. The question is how tough?
I chose the bad boy, and I'm still with him, and still very much in love with him. We've been together off and on for about 3 years now (and he broke my heart terribly a couple times), but this last year+ that we've been together, it's been much more serious, and he's actually pretty good to me now. Not perfect, but he knows that's what it takes to keep me.
Most stories don't go like that, but I think he's gotten a bit more mature as he's gotten older and settled down a bit. That's my theory, anyway.
yea i dated the bad boy.. and he abused me for 2 years before i finally got the courage to run away from him and never look back. Ive been married to "Mr Nice Guy" for 7 years and I love him more every day.
No. Bad boy is just a euphemism for a dick, douchebag or asshole.
I don't live in the breakfast club and so I don't label people as bad boys, nice guys, etc.
I will never go for the bad boy
The bad boy idea is very enticing. Like Draco and Hermione, Chuck and Blair :)
you crash and burn with the good guy too. don't forget, all relationships end--it's not like you're going to end up happily ever after with the good guy just because he's a good guy.
There are "bad boys" and there are bad boys. Having piercings and smoking is not the same as putting your girlfriend down and disappearing for days on end. I wish society would put aesthetically based stereotypes to sleep and focus on the people who are making real trouble.
I have metal in my face and smoke all the time. I also read like a motherfucker, am close to my family, and always tip at least 20% when I eat out (up to 50% if it's a struggling local business). I'm not a "bad girl" by any means, and I refuse to date mopesters who think I'm going to make them "feel alive."
Jeez.
I feel the same as you! I've always been such a serious, "good" girl and I just want to let loose and just have fun for once! Over the years I have learned to loosen up some, though.
I've also fallen for the bad boy once....it hurt me alot, but I've also learned alot from it as you did, and the experience has shaped alot of views I have today.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - well, to be fair, some relationships only end in death. the whole "til death do us part" thing is still honored by some people.
i haven't yet gone for the bad boy, but i really fear that i will. i definitely find myself attracted to them.
UGH...gotta love the bad boys with the fast cars... and the smoking.. and the sex... omg the sex the sex!!
I've never dated one and I've never found myself attracted to one either. I've got to admit I've never seen the big attraction to it all. Give me a nice, decent, honest guy any day.
I usually like guys, who look like a "bad boy" but they are actually good schoolboys
the hottest guy that I've ever known had two full tattooo sleeves amongst other tats along his body, the sexiest tongue piercing only because it is on that super cute face, his toned are were like zomgomg! he should just be naked all the time hot
he was a white collar medical student by day
and nobody really knew exactly how hot he was underneath his daytime schoolboyness:D
I like nice guys, and I always have :) My ex was sort of a "rebel" at one point, but he was still a nice guy. He just liked to drive his motorcycle and was more intense than your average dude, but he treated me like a princess while we were together.
Ladies men and lost boys tend to pick me because I am aloof and distant.
Balanced men are better. Too much of either is a path towards relationship hell. Bad boys get laid but can't keep a steady relationship, good boys get friend zoned and cheated on, balanced men keep a relationship going, get laid and are more in tune with their inner selves.
Most men who go for the whole bad boy thing really don't have their shit together on the inside. But if getting laid is all a guy wants, he has a much better shot at it than by being your typical good guy.
It really depends on what you want out of life and where your moral barometer stands. It's really easy to game a girl into bed with dishonesty, a bad boy image and the right words/body language. But as a person, do you really want to do that? That's the real question.
I don't know what I'm talking about anymore. I had a bunch of points I wanted to elaborate on, but I opted to just puke it all into a jumbled mess. Too busy at the moment!
My "bad boy experience" wasn't so much with a bad boy, but more of a guy who was just so much more....wilder than me. He was a club-kid who went to a lot of raves and clubs. He introduced me to a lot of new things (he got me to try "E" a couple times) and I just found his life a lot more exciting than mine.
Does that count? Or does the definition of "bad boy" *have* to include 'distant' and 'heartbreaker'?
Agree! But sometimes it's hard not to fall for them, over and over..