Monday, 05 March 2012
My girlfriend and I of about two years just had a split-up. I have spoke to her a few times since then and she wants to work things out as do I. The main reason we broke up was because of my relationship with a female friend. I need insight and another's perspective on this because I am not sure what to do.I have known this friend for about 10 years, we were roommates for a year, and we used to hang out a lot. Also before I met my ex-girlfriend, my friend and I were clouded by booze one night and we went past the friend zone and made out and almost had sex...but we realized what we were doing and did not let it go that far.Our conversations never crossed any boundaries, it was mostly just buddy talk and bullshit.
The reason my girlfriend wanted to end things was because I had continued a type of "secret" relationship with this friend, it was not a physical relationship but I guess you could say semi-emotional relationship, through text, social networks and a casual run in.
I know I am in the wrong and texting another girl at 1AM in the morning is super shady, but I think I am obsessed with this girl's friendship. I do not care for her sexually and I would not cheat on my girlfriend with this friend, I just do not know how to go about things. I live in a small town and eventually we will run into each other. When I was with my ex-girlfriend and we happened to run into my female friend, it would become awkward and pensive.
My girlfriend tells me that If I want her back I will have to cut all ties with my friend. I do love this girl and I want to make things work, so she gave me an ultimatum....