Ladies, we need to talk.
Just so we can be clear about this, I'm talking about the ladies who have a habit of pretending that their men are better in bed than they really are.
Now, today, I read about the token woman who is so beautiful that she is able to get the man off. Despite the fact that little of what they did turned her on, she encouraged them and made them feel like the king of the bedroom. Ladies, I would like to say this: stop that. Immediately. Please?
Yes, I know that you don't want to ruin the guys' self-esteem, but think about this: if there is anything that ruins a man's self-esteem in the bedroom more than being told his dick size is inferior, it's not being told we suck but instead finding out that you have been faking it the whole time
. Because despite how one-sided the sex may seem, what pleases us the most is knowing that you like it, too.
I'm not going to play like I'm Casanova. I might have the drive, but whether or not I have the skills could depend on the woman. After all, if there is anything that I have learned, it's that not all women enjoy the same things. This being said, I'm the type of guy who loves it when a woman tells me what she likes in the bedroom, sexual fantasies and all.
I like it just as much if I am doing something and she encourages what I do because it makes me feel like I know what I'm doing with her. I also like it when she shares her dislikes with me because this way I can learn how to please her. Maybe right after this, I can do the same and she would know what pleases me during sex. If ever I'm doing something wrong, all she has to do is direct me.
I remember the first time I was told that she had been faking. Now, this was when I most definitely had the libido of a teenager. I thought things were alright. But my evaluation of how I was didn't arrive till after I got back to college. When she told me after the fact that she enjoyed it, it felt kind of uncomfortable. I started thinking, "Wow, am I so bad in bed that you have to hide it and tell me days after the fact?"
It may have been a hard blow, but knowing that I needed some work made me want to step my game up, and learn to tend more to a woman's needs and wants in bed.
So, women, please tell these men what you think of them in bed. Sure being told that we aren't doing anything right hurts at anytime, but it's only because we care. Tell us what you like, and prepare to be surprised at the progress.