Ladies, we need to talk.
Just so we can be clear about this, I'm talking about the ladies who have a habit of pretending that their men are better in bed than they really are.
Now, today, I read about the token woman who is so beautiful that she is able to get the man off. Despite the fact that little of what they did turned her on, she encouraged them and made them feel like the king of the bedroom. Ladies, I would like to say this: stop that. Immediately. Please?
Yes, I know that you don't want to ruin the guys' self-esteem, but think about this:
if there is anything that ruins a man's self-esteem in the bedroom more than being told his dick size is inferior, it's not being told we suck but instead finding out that you have been faking it the whole time. Because despite how one-sided the sex may seem, what pleases us the most is knowing that you like it, too.
I'm not going to play like I'm Casanova. I might have the drive, but whether or not I have the skills could depend on the woman. After all, if there is anything that I have learned, it's that not all women enjoy the same things. This being said, I'm the type of guy who loves it when a woman tells me what she likes in the bedroom, sexual fantasies and all.
I like it just as much if I am doing something and she encourages what I do because it makes me feel like I know what I'm doing with her. I also like it when she shares her dislikes with me because this way I can learn how to please her. Maybe right after this, I can do the same and she would know what pleases me during sex. If ever I'm doing something wrong, all she has to do is direct me.
I remember the first time I was told that she had been faking. Now, this was when I most definitely had the libido of a teenager. I thought things were alright. But my evaluation of how I was didn't arrive till after I got back to college. When she told me after the fact that she enjoyed it, it felt kind of uncomfortable. I started thinking, "Wow, am I so bad in bed that you have to hide it and tell me days after the fact?"
It may have been a hard blow, but knowing that I needed some work made me want to step my game up, and learn to tend more to a woman's needs and wants in bed.
So, women, please tell these men what you think of them in bed. Sure being told that we aren't doing anything right hurts at anytime, but it's only because we care. Tell us what you like, and prepare to be surprised at the progress.
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Comments (48)
I can see where you're coming from and I can agree with your overall point. Couples need to be open about their partners performance and talk it out respectfully to better suit their partners needs.
I agree. I've never faked it- I try to be as open as possible with my fiance. I want to enjoy sex, too.
When you fake it- you'll eventually get tired of lying and will probably end up stoping any kind of sexual contact because you're so fed up with not being satisfied- which can harm your relationship even more.
Seriously. I mean what's the point of faking it anyway? To further perpetuate a lie? That sounds like a good idea /sarcasm
i've never faked an orgasm. but, sometimes my orgasms are lackluster. so i put on a bigger show (moan louder than i really feel compelled to) to indicate that i did, in fact, have one.
Indeed. "Fake it until you make it" doesn't work when it comes to sexual intimacy.
I've faked it. I won't lie and probably because I was too tired to give directions or didn't want to do any work. I don't like to be seen as a starfish in bed, so I fake it. It's not like I didn't enjoy it. I just care enough for my S.O. LOL! does that make sense?
I used to fake it all the time. It makes the dude feel better about himself even if you didn't reach the big O. It also got my ex-husband to leave me alone for the most part, which is all I wanted. An orgasm is more than a big moan and fingernails in the back, ladies. Men that are in tune with their body will be able to feel that you're faking it; if they really care, that is. Plus, sometimes you can tell a man what you want in bed and he just won't be able to do it for you.
I've never once faked it, or had to fake it with my husband now. There isn't a reason to. :)
I hate partnering because I get the lowest of the low since that's what I am. It's like there's already one of us covered in shit. The two of us together are soaked.
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It's unhealthy for a couple's relationship to lie at all about anything.
haha i had an ex that used to fake it in the beginning of our relationship... every time after she faked it, she'd have a real one but she'd try to hide it because she didn't want me to know her first one was fake. after the first 2 or 3 weeks she stopped faking it. YES LADIES, we know when you all fake it... why? because most of you fake it anyway, so we build experience in catching fake O's.
by the way dude, if you don't eat it (at least 5-10 minutes), her chances of orgasm are reduced by half.
When I first started having sex and for relationships after, I would fake it. It comes so naturally! When my first found out I'd been faking it for a year, he lost it.
In my current relationship I have never faked it. Never wanted to. Figure it's about damn time I stop making a man feel great and a man finally make me feel great instead!! I wanna be pleased too. =) Plus a man will never know he is doing it wrong if you're faking it like a champ.If you are faking it all the time, that is one thing. But if the guy (or you) are having an off day, I don't see the harm once in awhile if having an orgasm is the norm.
I don't get orgasms during sex, and let the guy know beforehand so he knows it's okay to stop after he is finished. I get pleasure from pleasuring him, and it feels nice enough during.
I have never faked it. I don't reckon it's just because I'm nice, but more because I'm honest and I don't know when I should fake it. haha
I have never faked and my boyfriend is always suspicious haha. I don't know if it's just because it's always brought up in movies/TV shows, etc or what but he always finds it so hard to believe because I guess it's really hard for a lot of women to orgasm just from regular sex. I have no problem but I guess I'm just special lol. And I wouldn't even know how to fake it if I tried, most likely.
I never faked but sometimes my orgasms are not as intense as they hoped even if I told them what to do so I've needed to exaggerate a little. Ill be more inclined to change when some men will stop needing so much external validation when it comes to sex. Sometimes I don't want to moan every 5 seconds or sometimes my body is not going to be as wet as you think it should be but the man is pleasing me just fine. Or if I don't want to do certain things they assume that it has to do with them. I've met great men and awful men but in the end it's usually the same insecure shit. Frankly sex with a woman flows a lot better for me. You'd think women would have more insecurities in bed but it's the total opposite in my experience. I've stopped the exaggerating though because I don't want to be dishonest and if they don't like the way I react in bed they can just get the fuck out.
I don't think I can fake it...
I don't fake it. Guys, if you suck. Sorry...
I've never faked it. If it seems to be taking longer than usual or something, my bf asks me what he can do, so I give him directions, we adjust things. I'd rather have an orgasm than not you know? I'd be the one missing out by faking. Plus it'd destroy his self-esteem and break our trust. I'd rather NOT have an orgasm at all than fake one. He can always get one out of me another way if it doesn't work from intercourse ;)
I think 'faking it' should also saying if 'you liked it' but didn't.
what was that about a "hard blow"?
i admit, i've faked it before but now i don't really find the need to do that anymore. it's not worth it.
Sounds like a personal problem
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jaiMzLhliA
3:52
I admit I faked it once, but that was when the ex and I were starting to fall apart and I wasn't really feeling him so yea