This Tuesday will be my first Valentine's Day in 12 years that I have not had a Valentine. 12 years of cards, dinner, flowers, kisses. I can't say that I'll miss it either.
Last Valentine's Day taught me that
if you aren't spending Valentine's Day with someone you cherish and genuinely care for - it's not worth celebrating at all.
I'm not getting into the whole debate over "If you really love someone - you would show them everyday how much you care!" or "Valentine's Day is a Hallmark holiday." Psht. Be real. Valentine's Day is a day that you get to be your husband's girlfriend for a night. Or, if you're in a serious relationship, you can make it a date night. Or if you're new to a relationship, you can show the person that you really do see them sticking around for a while.
It's a day dedicated to lovers.
Therefore, if you're single - it's not that the world is pitted against you. It's not that you should shack up with somebody real fast to score some shitty bouquet your date will pick out and then leave in his parent's fridge, or to eat some cheez-doodles out of a fancy martini glass whilst sipping wine out of shot glasses illuminated by beer-bottle candlelight (not that I'm writing from experience or anything). It's just that this day is not about you.
So - ahem - these are my big plans for this pre-Valentine's Day weekend:
*Manicure/pedicure *Purchase Raisinets*Cry hysterically watching "The Vow" (aka: my biggest fear in movie form) while eating RaisinetsAnd, for right now, I don't wish it to be any other way.
La dolce far niente.
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i'm gonna be quite honest with you--i think you're kind of pathetic.
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okay, having reread this post, i realize i missed a couple of "not"s in there. i *do* agree that the day is meant for lovers, but i also don't think there are many better weekends to go out to the clubs (maybe nye and halloween). i have, in my post-pubescent life, only ever had one valentine, and i still love this day.
no mani-pedi for me.
The fail is strong with this one.
I've never really cared one way or the other about Valentine's Day, when I was single or now that I'm married. Maybe this is more of a thing for women, or perhaps I'm just heartless. Never seemed like a big deal to me.
I'm sick of people whining about being single on Valentine's day. Its not just romantic love, there's other kinds in the world. Even "I love myself!" love. To be honest, this i my first Valentine's day with a guy but he's out of state so I'm going out to dinner with my mom & going on a mini shopping spree for myself before mailing my fiance his gift.
If you honestly feel lonely, instead of sitting around moaping, do something. Volunteer, go out with friends or see if there's a singles event near you for Vday. I never let my relationship status affect the day. Someone out there loves you even if it's not in the way you want it.
Well, I agree that Valentine's Day isn't for singles. Definitely. I'm just going to spend it like any other day.
I was gonna say I disagree with you, but you're getting raisinets, and well you just can't go wrong with those.
There's really nothing I can add except to raise my glass in salutation and say 'hear, hear!'
I don't care about it in general. When I was with my ex for 6 years sometimes we would do something for Valentines day and other times we forgot it even existed. Now that I'm single it's not much different. If I happen to remember it I might get some chocolates cause well..it's friggin chocolate.
Yeah, I kind of feel bad for someone who doesn't have a love one this day. Sucks that I'll be working without OT too.
BTW, if no one knew it was almost Valentine's: your kindle, phone, computer, unit (job), stores, social sites, emails, etc. would remind you that it's coming soon. *face palm*
I don't know what my boyfriend is doing... All I know is that on February 15... Find me in a chocolate coma.
Shush! You're gonna make my shitty bouquet go to waste!
~La Dolce far Niente.~ I love that.."The Sweetness of doing Nothing...Amen to that! One of my top 5 movies..Eat, Pray & Love..
Theres nothing wrong with showing yourself a bit of Valentine Day pampering..If a person doesnt take the time out to show ones self a little love..then who will? LOL
Raisenets..My favorites..but gotta try & slow down on the chocolates..After the holidays..Sweets wrecked havoc on my Zumba efforts LOL
Valentines Day also happens to be "My Anniversary" Over the many years..Seems like less enthusiastic about getting together with the ole man trying to figure out something different..And Im definitely not referring to "extra curricular activities..I guess for some men..they figure a woman no longer wants the "romantic part" or that she should even dare to still think of it..* Ah yes..looks like I'll have 2 dig out a romantic "Chick Flick" Or go see a movie by myself...
For the most part..I get a kick out of doing Valentine shopping for my Grandaughters..Just seeing the joy on their faces..PRICELESS! Makes it all worthwhile
@JusticeCho@xanga - Like your comment on the raisinets..Too cute.
.@coolmonkey@xanga - Why would your Bouquet go to waste?
wear a sexy outfit to prance around and when the guys check me out, I'll give them the look of...psh, you can't have this
I already did post-super bowl shopping for myself last week. this week is pre-valentine shopping. then pre-xmas shopping. anyday can be shopping day
I miss being a little kid-- with the little, cute valentines and loads of chocolatey treats from my mom. This V-Day will actually be my first ever not single, but it's not a big deal to me. I'm just excited to see my boyfriend, but that's nothing new.
I just get sick of the singles whining about it all the time, especially on facebook. It makes me wanna puke a little. I don't get to spend it with my boyfriend because of the distance, but we already did our special "Valentine's Date" night last weekend and it was nice :)
@articulate_silence@xanga - UGH, I agree 1,000%. I'm so sick of hearing people complain/bitch/moan about theirpathetic lives. They refuse to be happy for anybody else and mope about how "being single sucks".
It's just another day, who cares?
Like any other holiday, Valentine's Day is pretty much what you make it, or not.
Anyone is free to celebrate, ignore or hate on any holiday. Whether I have a partner or not I always send Valentine cards to my close friends, mom and sisters and bring in heart shaped goodies for my coworkers.
Glad I never knew it was all about couples when I was a kid, would have missed out on lots of goodies and silly cards with my school pals.
I don't see why everyone has a problem with this post, I think its great! It's true, it is a day for lovers which is what I love so much about it:) Even though I have never had one good valentine's day in my life. I've had an okay one, but it was only okay. And what made it good was that I spent most of it with a recently broken hearted friend, making an anti-valentine's day cake. Enjoy your movie! Maybe I'll watch it too:)
It's just a day to rip off the general public, make single people feel like shit and make people in a relationship feel smug. Happy Valentines.everyone. :)
yeah. who cares? im single and happy.Ü CHEERS.
What a drama queen. For whatever reason, I've never had a boyfriend or anything during V-day, and it has been no big deal. My mom gets me a card and candy. My friends and I tell each other we love each other. It's wonderful. You are just being a big baby because this is your first single V-day in a long time.
@Grtt@xanga - I think it's a bigger deal for... I don't know. I get a big thrill out of our anniversary, but not Valentine's Day, and never have. Maybe it's a bigger deal for folks who want to show their love on the same day that all the other people are showing their love- as a sense of community or something? LOL.
The main thing about Valentine's Day is that I hear people bitching about being single, or their boyfriend didn't do what they wanted.
http://theoatmeal.com/blog/valentines_day
That is all.
My guy will be out of town working on Valentines. I'm babysitting for about and hour and then drinking red wine with my best friend for the rest of the night. :) It's gonna be ballin.