Friday, 03 February 2012
It seems that the majority of people who dream of their wedding day think of a nice fancy place (like a church that is important to them), a huge rock (ring), a fancy dress (have you ever seen Say Yes to the Dress?), etc.
There was a post on here recently about the meaning of marriage and how it's becoming distorted. If getting married isn't about those materialistic things, then why have some big fancy ceremony? I saw a quote once that said, "The marriage is for the couple, the wedding is for the family." But I believe the wedding is the celebration of marriage and therefore, also for the couple.
My fiance and I have decided to have a destination wedding... meaning, we are getting married in Bermuda, just the two of us. We're going to do everything for $10,000 - including air fare, a hotel, food, our honeymoon #we''ll already be in Bermuda, why not?!# rings, my dress, his tux, etc. And we'll have a reception when we get back to celebrate with family and friends. I think with just the two of us our wedding will be personal, romantic and almost fairytale-like.
Some of our family and friends are really happy for us and fine with how we have decided to do things, but others aren't as flexible. My coworker told me he would love to get married the way we are, but he knows both his family and his fiance's would have a serious problem with it, so they decided to do it more traditional.
Even when we first got engaged and my mom asked how he did it, she said "Oh. That's WORSE than the way my husband proposed. AT LEAST he made it a surprise." We know we want to be together, I picked out the ring, so he just asked one night, at home, while holding my hand. But why is this a comparison, mom?
What are other people's opinions on how they want to get married? Would you go against what your family and friends expect/want from you if you wanted to do it differently? What do you think of our wedding plans?