Monday, 30 January 2012
I ended a 10 month relationship with my boyfriend a bit more than a month ago because of his jealousy and controlling behavior. He was fine at first but got really mad at me for talking to other guys after the break up. He stopped texting me and ignored me in person. He also tried getting revenge by posting "lovey" messages about a girl to make me jealous.
We talked about it. He was mad and accused me of trying to make him jealous but I never did. He then deleted me on Facebook and I stopped talking to him. I went on full NC (no contact) during the winter break.
When we got back to school, he was everywhere I was, talking to my friends but not me. Later on I found out he told his guy friends to stop talking to me. His friends told me that he doesn’t want to see anyone go out with me. And I heard from my girl friends that he said I was stealing his friends.
I hated this situation and wanted to make peace. I gave him a b-day card last week and talked a little and we assumed we were friends again. He was surprised and appeared to be happy.
The thing is he wouldn’t add me back on Facebook or text me even after we said we were friends again. He was cold when I started to talk to him, but he’s been showing up a lot in front of me, going to the place that I usually hang, taking longer routes to pass me by to the next class, and wearing the outfit that I said I liked.
Why does he behave like this? Is it because he has totally moved on or is he still mad that I broke up with him? He is very sensitive and insecure. Is that his ego? Was he upset because he wanted me to try extra hard to show I wanted to be with him either in a relationship or friendship?
If you're really over someone, what kind of normal behavior should I expect? Would they stop talking to you at all like they don’t even notice you? I’m really confused and frustrated since I have to see him every day and it’s hard for me to let go. We did have a great time and we were both first loves. It hurts when I see him being a jerk like this.
I didn’t want to leave him but he was causing too much stress on me and I had lost my social life because of him. He made me cry all the time for no reason. I felt like a bird in a cage but I had deep feelings for him the whole time. I gave in and tried to compromise but he just became worse; that’s why I had to let go.
Can anyone tell me why he is doing this? What does he want?