My ex would always tell me I was needy or clingy. I Definitely get where you are coming from, at the beginning of the relationship it seems all he does is want your attention and of course you want to give it but then it slowly fades and he wants more space but you stay at a constant. I don't particularly enjoy having conversations on the phone so that's not something I would care about but when they don't even try and understand where you are coming from then its frustrating, especially if you're the type that would go out on a limb to be understanding for them. Give him his space but when something is important to you and you want attention from your partner and lover, there is no reason he should give that would make you feel un-entitled to that.

It seems like you both have a very different definition of communicating when in a relationship. You enjoy conversation, while he is fine with multitasking and doing things while talking to you. I think you need to talk to him and you both should come to a compromise. Set aside some "couple" time - whether it's once a day or once every two days, etc - and no matter what, each person drop whatever it is he/she is doing to talk. Find some middle line that is appealing to the both of you. 

First of all, what makes you think you're the one who needs to change?
Secondly, I'd rather be alone than feel rejected every damn day by someone I'm in love with.
Thirdly, (and I'm assuming you've talked to him about how you feel already) you beat fire with fire. Make him miss you and take you less for granted. Put other priorities of your own ahead of him until he stops doing the same.

i definitely am needy too and my form of communication is quite demanding but you two need some kind of compromise. sometimes you just have to put your needs out there for him to see hear and see too.  the relationship takes 2 people to tango so two people need to work at it. 

yikes. I just recently got out of a relationship like this. But my bf would go like a week without talking to me AT ALL. I ended things, he ended up missing me and pleaded for me to take him back... I did and it was the same thing.. We broke up again, and I ended up taking him back a third time, then the SAME THING. Now we're finally over for good. It's better off that way. As someone commented before me, it is better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel alone. Good luck.

@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - I was so ridiculously in love with this guy, so I kept believing him when he would tell me he was sorry and that it was going to be different. But after the 3rd time that only lasted 4 DAYS.. something inside me just changed. I guess I finally saw the light, and now I know I'll never go back to him again. I realized it was all a lie with him. So, as sad as it made me to ignore the things he said after the last time, I know I made the right choice. He's actually been rather childish about the entire thing, I guess he didn't expect me to actually walk away for good. The more he acts like a fool, the more I see I did the right thing. One day I will find someone that wants me, and can not live without me.. until then, I am happily single. 

I'm sort of like the guy in this situation, except I don't have time to hang out with friends or watch tv, because I'm usually busy at work or too tired after work-sometimes I work 6 consecutive days or day and swing shift schedules, so my sleep pattern is all over the place and it ruins my circadian rhythm all I mainly want is to get some sleep. then I usually stay up late to talk to him for a few hours, and then get maybe 5-6hrs of sleep and feel tired at work and when I get home, I can't wait to take a nap on my day off, I just want to take a sleep marathon and catch up on my sleep. so I sacrifice sleep time to talk to him after work. it used to be the other way around where I was needy, but that was because I had too much spare time and didn't have a steady job:D my guy is busy with work, too, so we're often too busy to be needy. I can't check my phone at work/text or else I'll get a warning and possibly be fired if it happens often. find someone similar, who doesn't think your desires are needy or date someone, who is more willing to spend more time with you. it seems like he isn't that into you or you have different attention needs, which is okay, so you don't seem that compatible.

@ShirleyD@xanga - I disagree.  I think that couples can go a day or two without talking and that is healthy.  Especially when one person's life is completely busy or hectic for awhile because of work, school, family, etc.  Both people have to be understanding about what is going on in the other person's life. 

What you have here, is a problem of misplaced identity.  What you're forgetting is the sheer gift of the person that you're with.  What you're doing is placing the status of your relationship conditional on the amount of time he's spending with you.  Not saying that all couples should not spend time together constantly, but maybe he doesn't value the spending time together as much as you do.  Maybe there are things that he appreciates more than you do.  Gary Chapman has this book, The Five Love Languages, and it talks about this concept.  I highly encourage it.  It does have a Christian background, but if you throw out all of the Christian references, it is still a great read. 

What you need to do is just get back to the basis, place your value on yourself.  And remember what a gift this person is to you.  You can't just "expect" them to spend all this time with them, you can ask, sure.  But you can't "expect" it.  Build yourself up.  Don't make your self-worth based on what he thinks or how he interacts.  Because they are a gift to you, whenever you spend time with them, make sure the time you spend with them is a good thing, because honestly, you're probably nagging him all the time to talk and to spend time with you, that you've forgotten what it's like to just spend time enjoying each other and not asking for more contact and more of a relationship.  Maybe that will help. 

I don't think this is you being needy. I think it's your mind telling you that random, pointless texts throughout the day aren't cutting it. I don't blame you.

The best solution is to be as honest and straight forward about this as possible. You need to tell him WHY the texts aren't satisfying and tell him what would satisfy you. If you would rather have a phone conversation at the end of the day - then say so. If you want to meet him for coffee on certain days of the week so you can have quality time - then say so. If you feel like he doesn't make enough time for you - then say so. Make it clear what you want, exactly. Don't play guessing games. Don't expect him to just know what you want. I've learned that it's much easier to deal with men if you just tell them what you want.

My husband can be spontaneously romantic and sweet sometimes. He will do things for me without asking but it's not on a regular basis. We've been together for 5 years, we've grown comfortable. If I want something, I just tell him. For example, when our son was born in November, I went through a serious "needy" phase. Baby blues and needing to know I was still attractive. So what did I do? I told him I was feeling a little insecure since having the baby and I feel like I need some extra attention and love. He listened and happily put in the effort to spend quality time with me.

If you want better communication from him, you need to communicate better with him.

It's sounds like your love language is Quality time.  (Mind is as well).  I am trying to know a girl she is just a friend at the moment.  I like seeing her but she is busy I know.  I am organized she semi organised.  I am needy I think everyone is needy to certain degree.  It just depends where you are at in your life.  

The last time I was in your shoes, I was in a psychologically abusive relationship. Not to say that your relationship is on that path, but it sounds like you're shouting and not being heard. You've talked all you can. I don't know if you're at the end of your rope, but if you are, then keep your options open.

@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - right on! well said!