Thursday, 26 January 2012
I just got an interesting phone call from one of my best guy friends. He was complaining that this new girl he has been seeing always talks about her ex's. In his words, he said, "If something reminds her of something she did with one of her ex's, it's a story. A memory becomes another story. It's like she has had no life outside of her boyfriends! It's driving me insane! She got mad at me the other day because I DIDN'T tell her about one of my own ex's, but that was before her! Why does she even care? Then, when I told her that, she said, 'Because knowing where someone has been in their past is part of getting to know them.' And now I'm confused...."
I honestly don't know what to tell him. I used to be that way. I talked about my ex's all the time. I can't honestly even give a good reason why. I have had very few serious relationships, but they were all long term, and I suppose most of my life experiences come from those relationships. I don't know how I learned to stop talking about them, either, but I did. I still mention an ex occasionally in a story but I don't talk about our relationship or anything like I used to.
I wonder, is it really that annoying to some people if someone talks about their ex's all the time? What do you think it means? Is it a subconscious sign that they aren't really over their past?
What would you do if someone you were on a date with, or dating, kept bringing up ex's? How do you tell your significant other to stop? If you are that person who talks about their ex's, how do you stop?