Tuesday, 24 January 2012
How many times have you heard this story? Boy meets girl. Boy falls head-over-heels in love, but Girl is less enthused. Boy persists in wooing Girl, until eventually, Girl realizes that Boy is her knight in shining armor. They live happily ever after.
Persistence wins the day. Some people, however, confuse persistence with refusing to hear “No.”
I appreciate a persistent man. Heck, I love the thrill of (being) chased. But stalking is not courtship. Harassment is not courtship.
In the spirit of charity and good will, here's a handy list of 10 signs that you may be stalking or harassing your intended significant other and not, in fact, winning them over with your persistent 1am texts.
Your attention may be unwanted if...
1. You show up unannounced on his doorstep with a two-liter of Mountain Dew and a DVD.
2. After meeting her for the first time, you write her a lengthy email declaring that she is the love of your life.
3. You gift him a handmade ceramic sign with his name on it "for his bedroom door."
4. You tell her, "Your boobs look amazing."
5. You take pictures of him surreptitiously during a party, and then send a casual email with the pictures attached.
6. You grab her butt, and then pretend nothing happened.
7. You get slapped with a restraining order.
8. You try to kiss her. She pulls away. You try again.
9. He changes his phone number. Five times.
10. She tells you to back the #&%* off.
What do you think? Are these actions flattering or creepy? What’s the difference between pursuit and harassment?