Wednesday, 18 January 2012
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Sex Before Marriage - Immoral or Personal Choice?
It seems that I have been bombarded by many strong Christian believers on my opinion of premarital sex. I, myself a Christian, who tries to do as much good as possible and always help a stranger, believe that love making is okay between a couple in love. My husband and I moved in together after he proposed, and we were intimate with one another before we got married.
We love one another and wanted to express that love and become one. But where do we draw the line? If it's ok to have intimate relations before marriage, how do we define which ones are ok and which aren't? If it's not okay, as the Bible preaches, should we abstain at all costs?
I guess same sex couples then should never have sex because in many states they are still not able to get married, and most churches do not recognize their union. So then sex is not a love connection that joins two people as one, or is it?
My question to you, how do you feel about premarital sex? Morally wrong, or socially acceptable? Where do you draw the line?
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I think that people should do whatever they feel comfortable doing without having to worry about other people being judgmental.
If they want to wait, that's fine. If they don't, that's fine. It's their life.
I think it is a personal choice--they should do what they believe is right for them. People are often so judgmental of others. I don't know about anyone else, but I've got enough of my own issues to worry about whether or not a friend or neighbor is having sex before marriage.
Personal Choice.
I'm a Christian... and I had pre-marital sex (not that I'm proud of that or anything).
We're human. And we all can make our own choices. What's right for me or you may not be right for someone else, so I don't really care what other people choose to do. I know what's right for me and I'll stick with that! :)
I used to want to wait until marriage, that is, until I hit puberty and my hormones were raging. Yeah, I waited until I was nearly 15. And it is a personal choice. If you want to wait (or not), more power to you.
Morally wrong in every way. Sex should only be had in the dark for the purpose of procreation within the Godly confines of the holiest of institutions.
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
I see it as a personal choice. Nobody else's business. You know what feels right to you or not.
If there is a god, I find it hard to believe that his gives two ****s about your sex life.
The universal you. Not you in general.
I believe two people in love should be able to have sex if they want to. Isn't that what sex is supposed to be about? Love? I know for some people it's not, but for my husband it was. When we met he was a virgin and had every intention of waiting until he was married to have sex, but we had a very deep connection and he wanted to experience that with me because he knew we were going to eventually be married. He just didn't wait until "I do" to do it.
I respect anyone who has enough willpower and conviction to wait until they're married to have sex. It's a personal choice in the end.
As someone who isn't planning on marriage, it's the only way I get sex anyway. Might as well live it up.
It's personal choice and nothing more. If one uses their religion to stay a virgin until they're married, that's fine. Just don't tell the rest of us what to do.
I don't see how it's immoral at all.
Personal choice
Consider this though, it is quite possible that the person you choose isn't sexually compatible with you. There may be things they want and vice versa that the other isn't comfortable doing, and are not capable of performing to your liking. For some people this isn't a problem because they'll work with what they have. For others...they tip out. This goes for females and males. So I think you should test drive the car before you buy. Pump those brakes, rev the engine, put your p3nis into the gas receptacle *or maybe that's just my thing*
i think that it's a personal choice
is it wrong: according to the bible yeah it is, but then so is just looking at someone and thinking about sex
so personally yeah i have had sex before i was married and do so often, but it's been with the same person, who also happens to be the father of my child.
so at the end of the day am i morally wrong? idk but i don't think so
i guess i'll find out when im judged before God (if you believe that)
@QuantumStorm@xanga - I guess my husband loved the milk so much he decided to buy the cow. lol
Just wanted to put this for additional discussion: In the Bible it also states that many of the holy prophets had MANY wives. For some reason it's ok according to the Bible to have numerous wives but having sex before marriage is wrong. Thats why my opinion is and I stick by it: The Bible was written BY MEN FOR MEN, it was interpreted over the ages, and considering that it was not actually written until 100 years after the death of Jesus Christ many of the stories in it where mouth to mouth. We all know what its like to play telephone. Now imagine the same story going from person to person for generations. You don't think new twists and turns will be added to suit own needs and beliefs?
@pinkdiffusion@xanga - Truth. I'm glad someone said it.
It all depends on who you ask.
I'll bet if this was on revelife instead of Datingish, you'd be getting much different answers. If you're a Christian and the bible says fornication is a sin, how can you justify it?
It depends, but I think it's a personal choice.
It's also immoral to test drive cars.
It's a personal choice and I would make sure I had sex quite a few times before I got married so I could be good at it for my husband.
@StatelessPilot@revelife - "there are no secular reasons for abstinence until marriage"
Really?
1. Population control
2. Containment of STDs
3. Greater predictability and management of human genetics and evolution
4. Far fewer broken hearts
None at all?
@theflowerstem@xanga - How would your husband NOT find it fucking amazing if he never had sex before...?