Monday, 16 January 2012
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Will My Ex Girlfriend Come Back to Me?
My ex girlfriend broke up with me after 3 years. She's done this a lot, yet I've been told by her and everyone else that I'm an amazing guy, and never done anything wrong to her. She has 3 kids, and was in the middle of a divorce up until she broke up with me. She broke up with me 10 days before our anniversary, two weeks before Christmas, and 3 weeks before new years. After only two weeks, she'd moved back in with her husband, got back together, and basically erased me from existence.
She's done this twice already, and she came back to me both times because it never worked. She was struggling, and things were getting hard for her to deal with, but always swore to me that she'd never go back to him. They fought constantly, and talked trash about each other everyday. He lied to her a lot, even had her kids lie for him a couple of times, and is a real piece of crap in my book. Everyone has told me how happy she was with me, and what an amazing couple we were, and then out of nowhere, she leaves.
I've talked to her once, she changed her number, and when I've talked to her she's treated me like garbage. Acts like what we had for 3 years meant nothing to her, and she's "wonderful" as she said to me and her kids too. Everyone is telling me that she'll be back because it's all for money. They said for her to be with me for 3 years and try to divorce him twice, that she'll come back again in due time because they'll never change each other.
I know you can't change like that overnight. She's going to single me out thinking that's the root of all her problems. I've been told she's being mean to me because she still does love me, and cares for me, that being mean is a defense mechanism. I just wish she'd come back to me. I'm praying to God everyday that she does. Losing her was like having a huge part of me amputated!
Is there anything I can do?
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Yeah, stop being a b*tch and find someone worth your time
Um everything you said about her was very negative. Why would anyone want someone like that in their life? Does she have any redeeming qualities? It's hard, but you need to move on, because clearly she has. It'll take a couple years to be completely over her, but stop putting it off and start now. And stop listening to whomever "they" are. Those people will make it difficult for you to move on. They're telling you what you want to hear but it's counter-productive. Go watch He's Just Not That Into You.
Dude you shouldn't have gotten back with her the first time she did this and you sure as hell shouldn't let it happen again whether she wants it or not. This relationship seems way unhealthy and you sound WAY too emotionally dependent on this chick. Focus on getting your life in order, and you'll find someone else when you're ready... and I recommend a single woman! You'll be a lot happier in the long run.
You deserve someone better, someone who wont step all over you like that!!!! :(
How can you respect yourself, your health, and how can your friends respect you if you allow a woman to try you that way? Don't you want to be happy?Why in the hell would you still want her back after so many fuck ups on her part? I can understand being upset that she acts this way and just wishing she would change, but from my experience you and her wont work out. Sounds like she's using you as a rebound for whenever her and her husband have issues and she keeps coming back to you because she knows you'll let her. How could you feel secure being with her? Wouldn't you feel like at any day she could break up with you? That's how I'd feel and it's not worth it.
This sounds like a complete mess.
It sounds like you both have been cheating on your own partners for each other.
Why would you put yourself through this stress?
You shouldnt see anyone until you and your other is seperate and same for the opposite.
Sorry to sound blunt but you need to find someone who will stop playing you like a yoyo and she needs to sort her marriage out!
You should be able to see that someone who loves you, wont do this to you!
SHE sounds like a mess. dont let her mess with you like that, she's just using you.
It's time to let her go. She has spun herself a web of negativity that you don't want to be stuck in. Even if she came back to you you know damn well it won't be for the right reasons. She doesn't know what she wants and clearly has no respect for herself let alone you. There is no logical reason to have her in your life.
DO YOU REALLY NEED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS?
that is what I kept wondering reading this.
This is unrelated, but the woman in the picture has amazing calves. Now onto the subject..it depends if you love her enough to possibly stand her doing this again, indefinitely, for the possibility that you guys end up together sometime in the future. I know people do change, it's a matter of when. However, it's really tough in your case because that man is the father of her children. Best of luck.
I hope not.
She sounds like a mess. I HOPE she doesn't come back, for your sake, AT LEAST until her divorce in final. General rule of thumb is not to get romantically involved with someone until they are completely divorced from their spouse. It always leaves a door open to just run back to the marriage, which it seems like she is doing.
If you are the amazing guy people are telling you that you are, you deserve better than her drama. I know you love her, but it's time to move on and even if she comes back, say no.
There is someout out there worth your time. Go find them. :) No one needs this drama.
you are being treated as a buoy.
You are being incredibly selfish right now.
Right now there's some girl whose smart, funny and kind who won't play mind games with you sitting in front of her computer crying as she types a blog about how her last boyfriend was such a pig. Instead of searching out this girl you're sulking over a girl who has already proven to be a user, and will probably continue to use her if she does come back to you. I understand that you want to be a nice guy for both her sake and her kids sake, and in fairness, if I were in your shoes I'd be doing the same thing too, but I'd hope you tell me that I'm making a huge mistakes.
From what you written I don't see how you guys can be happy. The fact that she's gone back to their father a couple of times now means she has it set in her mind she wants to be with him regardless of how he makes her feel. So even though moving on is going to make you feel like you're ditching her, you're really not. That's where she wants to be so go find yourself that smart funny, kind girl with the sexy hips I mentioned, and be happy.
seems like her rich sugardaddy is a better deal, so that's why she keeps going back despite the bad treatment.
And you put up with this, why?? Let's be honest here. Even if it's not about the money, it definitely sounds like you're second rate; you're convenient when things go to shit with her husband.This woman clearly has no respect for you as a person whatsoever, and yet you want to be with her and are okay with being second banana because you love her. You deserve way better than someone who doesn't respect you and care about how their behavior affects you as a person. Drop the bitch and move on, because she obviously doesn't know what the hell she wants and doesn't have enough consideration for your feelings.
I'm sorry but it seems like she does not appreciate your love. Stop pining for her and start thinking about yourself for a change! She's left you to go live with her husband how many times and yet you still take her back?
I'd never date someone like that until they cleaned up their lives first and had made a clean break of that former situation. Erm, actually I'd never get involved with someone with that history but thats just me ;)
"she treated me like garbage"
So why exactly do you want her back?
*smh*...
There must be a lot of angry sex going on in both of her relationships. Maybe the double standard has gone on for too many centuries and it is time for it to be more acceptable for women to have harems of men whom they have wrapped around their little fingers. Also, cougarhood is going to become more acceptable and you'll see an 80 year old woman in bed with three 20 year old male soccer players taking her false teeth out of her mouth to give them:
*********************THE GUMLESS SUCK*********************
Sigh* what she's doing is so wrong. She's STILL married for Gods sake, why are you even in between all of this? Maybe if once she does divorce her husband, then you two can work something out. But, the fact that she kept going back and forth, what does that make out of her? After a while, I bet if things weren't working out between her and her husband, she's going to come running back to you, why? because you're her rebound, your there for her when she needs you, when she needs someone to lean a shoulder on. From what I'm hearing, the three year relationship is bull, and you're just the third wheel. I'm sorry to say but slap out of it and face the truth, a guy like you, if you're serious about relationships, you surely deserve someone who truly loves you and appreciates you. Love and appreciate yourself so others can love and appreciate you! Best of luck.
maybe.