Saturday, 14 January 2012
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Where Are All the Good Gentlemen? Pt. 1
First of all, I would like to state that I am a male writer just beginning to explore the possibilities of relationships with the same sex. When I say I am “beginning to explore,” I mean that I have not gone out with men, I have not done anything with a guy and I am open to possibilities.
Am I gay? No, I am still fairly attracted to women.
Am I bisexual? I haven’t done the deed, so I cannot exactly categorize myself as that either.
Thus it boils down to bi-curious. I wonder what it’s like; open to experience, but not aggressively seeking it out.There-in lies the first obstacle, where are the good gentlemen? What categorizes someone as a good gentleman? Is there a bad gentleman? Yeah, they are called dummies, jerks and a whole thesaurus of foul assorted synonyms. However I digress, so where are the good gentlemen? A person, more so from the female proportion of society, may say the good men are gay. As a person having crossed a handful of homosexuals in my life, including one guy I consider a closer friend than most; the good men are not all gay. What then constitutes a good gentleman? Let us first begin with physical attraction.
Society in this lifetime will not be able to steer away from physical attractiveness having relative importance. Men are expressively more visual, but that does not mean ladies are not equally inclined as well. I perceive ladies to be less expressive as it may draw unwanted attention, but it does not mean they are sub-par to visual stimuli. As part of the male population that is expected to purse women – the hunter and his prey – we have a misconception of being able to catch almost anything. Also as part of the population that has been hit on by men – myself being the prey – I know it’s a misconception of being caught by any guy. Thus I have to say, I sympathize with many ladies that say men are not up to the attractive standard.
I do not want to get into attraction being an individual interest because that is for another discussion, but I do want to state the differing amount of scrutiny placed on men and women. In short, women have been debauched for their looks for decades. On the other hand, men are just only beginning to feel the pressure, especially hyper-sexualized with the Internet; so in 50+ years, I hope… nay, I expect a large percent of men to be more visually attractive; my apologies for this generation.
Where is the first part of this story going to take us? Right here. For now, men have their work cut out for them to exude a physical attractiveness, which will open themselves up to more possibilities.
Thoughts?
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Let me get this straight. (Pun not intended, but hilarious, nonetheless) You want to let some other dude put his schlong in your poop chute, and your biggest concern is who is, or is not a gentleman?
Oh, wait. That's an entirely judgmental comment of mine, isn't it? I hope I didn't offend anyone...
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - That was completely uncalled for and mean.
It sounds like you are starting to gain perspective on the "other side" of the fence, so to speak. You can empathize more with women and the pressures that have plagued them for centuries, but now you are starting to see yourself in that light more than the other. I hope that whatever your identity winds up being, you feel supported by others and secure in who you are. Your unique emergence on understanding gender roles and relationships is and will probably continue proving to be very interesting to read. Good luck hun. :)
@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - How so? It's a valid question. I don't understand how he can be willing to do the one, and be more concerned with the other? Or more importantly, can you point out where I insulted him?
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - It was just vulgar and uncalled for, you hoped you didn't offend anyone but your comment was meant to.
@MiriamBeth@xanga - Vulgar? By who's standards. I thought saying schlong and poop chute would be tamer than saying something profane like C*ck and A**hole. I was trying to be clean. Sheesh.
And are you implying that I was insincere in my hoping I'd not offended anyone? I'm offended.
it is the availability of the personae. before the internet people thought john wane, george cuni and other actors were attractive.
it is because were are presented with an over-saturation of beautiful people who seem intelligent. but in normal conversation few of the characters are only remotely as charismatic.
now to the other point in the humdrum of an article, do average men compare to women in levels of attractiveness? no... why? cause men don't get boob jobs, and everyone likes tits. it isn't comparable.
seriously though if you have looked at men's fashion you know most of it is crap. there are around three mass produced 'suits', actually tuxedos, which look good on fit men. that is it. compare brands, and styles. how many companies in a mall have clothes which look good on men? i've yet to find one. and i do return to a mall every couple months to see if they have anything marketed toward men, not related to technology, which looks 'okay...'.
"I expect a large percent of men to be more visually attractive; my apologies to this generation." FTFY
you make so little sense. what makes you think personal relationships will still be desired in 50 years?
men usually don't need makeup to seem more attractive, but some women do, so men in general are more naturally attractive than some women. attractiveness is subjective and matters to an extent but an asshole in a suit is still an asshole, just looks more "gentlemanly," not necessarily a gentleman. some women can just put in some implants or they already have big boobs, and maybe do some makeup magic and look "hotter" but not necessarily. while men have to put in hard work to get those abs and toned arms if that's what they think makes them more attractive. women can also put in hard work to get abs, too. so both can have it hard:D umm...what I was saying is that the gay men that I've seen seem to work out just the right amount for a toned body without over doing it like some straight men do; the meathead wrestler types with popeye arms, which I don't find attractive. and also, some gay men that I've seen look stylish without overdoing it like some other men. although I've seen straight men, who were stylish and had a medium toned modest nice body. it depends on the person. as for the finding the gentleman part, who knows:D
i don't know where all the good gentlemen are either. if you find them, let me know. i would like one too.
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - I don't think it was the words you chose that sounded /rude uncalled for. It was the way you put it. Maybe you didn't mean to have it sound rude but by how you said it, it sounded like you were saying "You wanna let some other guy stick his thing into your hole, and your biggest problem about this is where all the gentlemen are?"
@o0_Innocent_0o@xanga - But that IS what I was saying. I was blatantly calling into question his homosexual thoughts. In my book, a dude playing with another dude's junk is....well, it's disgusting for starters, but it also doesn't make any sense. So yeah, I'm shocked that he thinks wondering about where the gentlemen are is more important than getting help for his insanity.
If that makes me insensitive...this is me not giving a damn.
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - oh LOL Okay then. So you have a problem with homosexual men? How is that disgusting? Are lesbian women just as disgusting for you? How does it differ between men and women being homosexual? Sorry I'm throwing questions at you, I'm curious
As for that last past, it's fine. I know some people far more insensitive than that.
@o0_Innocent_0o@xanga - Questions are fine. I'm not a sniper commentor, lol. I don't shoot and run, I can take the heat.
Yeah, believe it or not, a woman playing with another woman's junk doesn't do it for me either. It doesn't differ at all, in my book. Both are wrong, and both are disgusting.
How is it disgusting? Ok, well, gay sex. That involves one dude's penis in another dude's mouth, or ass. Does it really need any more explanation than that?
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - Oh okay. Cause there are some people who are completely against man on man but have no problem with woman on woman. So I wanted to know how you see it.
I don't find it disgusting though. Don't care if the other partner is of the same or opposite sex, as long as they don't tell me any details about what goes down in the bedroom. You have your opinions, I have mine. So we'll leave it at that ^__^Y
@o0_Innocent_0o@xanga - Yeah, I'm consistent in my unenlightened "homophobia" lol.
Thanks for the chat.
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - Once again, thank you for demonstrating why organized religion needs to be completely and totally eradicated from the face of the earth and the practice thereof banned. Your opposition to such things is merely rooted in religious delusion.
I'm not 100% sure what the point is but I will say that it's kind of interesting to link gentleman-liness with looks. If you're talking about an idea of the1930's gentleman where they don expensive suits, wear a fedora and slick back their hair, you won't hardly find any. Clark Gable is a thing of the past.
Things have digressed since then and men used to groom themselves so much more in the past 50 years. Not sure things are going to get better. But fashion usually dictates so who knows? Hipsters are in now, it could be Classy Chaps next year.
The gentleman of this generation are everywhere. They're the guy with a fuzzy beard who opens the door for you, the man in an old sweater and baggy pants who gives up his seat for someone else, the husband who rubs his wife's back in the hospital because she's had 24 hours of hard labor. Being a gentleman is all about generous, selfless deeds. Look for an unselfish guy, regardless of looks, and you'll have a real gentleman. (You can teach him about clothing, grooming and cologne later)
@StatelessPilot@revelife - First, allow me to say... I don't really give a f*ck what you think. Thanks.
Second, at what point did I mention anything about religion? Even the slightest intonation that my opinion was rooted in the same? Answer, I didn't.
On a side note, I think it's absolutely glorious that you can't reproduce... dodged a bullet with that one.
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - I've read enough of your psychobabble bullshit to know you're a Christard to the extreme. There are no non-religious reasons to be opposed to same sex relations. Period.
@StatelessPilot@revelife - You're still talking?
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - As if a worthless piece of subhuman monkey shit such as yourself could shut me up! I've checkmated you and you know it. There was no reason for what you said other than religion and you know it!
@StatelessPilot@revelife - *gasp*! The name-calling! I'm appalled!
yeah, you've checkmated me. You're right. I apologize for being so utterly wrong in my reasoning. Perhaps I could hop down to Mexico and sit in the Flight Engineers seat on your next flight and let you educate me?
@StatelessPilot@revelife - and by the way, dipshit, I wasn't trying to shut you up. The more you talk. the more I laugh. My comment was based in the utterly pathetic way you're still attempting to engage someone in conversation who's basically told you your opinion was worthless and meaningless to them.
Do you really need affirmation that badly?
I'm going now. Don't forget to use my coming silence as another red-herring method of proving your own argument, as though someone not desiring to debate you is somehow the same as proving them wrong in any intelligent circle...
@AgainstTheWind1@xanga - Shows how smart you are. FEs are a thing of the past, and it's very clear you're still living in the past. This is 2012. Things are different now. It's ridiculous that I'm less than half your ate probably and I'm the one having to tell you to grow up!