Saturday, 14 January 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
I recently engaged in a friends with benefits ordeal with not just a really good friend of mine but...1. He lives with me. And not just LIVES with me, he lives in the same ROOM as me.2. He has a crush on me.3. He has a lot on his plate to deal with.
We've only been going at it for about 3 weeks, but I just figured that... I want cuddling, kissing, and sex to mean more to me. I want it to represent more than just lust or sexual desires. I want to be madly in love with someone and I want someone to maybe feel the same way about me, and things will just go from there.I brought this up to my FWB this morning, and while he agreed with me, he didn't see the point in ending our 'fooling around.' In fact, he became impossibly frustrated. My reasoning is that I can't commit to really being out there for anyone if I'm sleeping with someone else. He retorted that what we had didn't have to necessarily be sex, it could just be cuddling and kissing.I needed to draw the line. When asked, he said that he isn't emotionally connected to this FWB ordeal (I've asked this a million times), but that he just doesn't see why it has to stop if we're both enjoying ourselves.
I have an inkling of a feeling that:1. He thinks something more will happen.2. He wants something to happen.3. He just really wants sex, no strings attached.To cut things short, he stormed out of the room this morning and ran off somewhere to do 'productive things.'This is what I present to you, Datingish: Was I wrong? I know I shouldn't have allowed the FWB situation to happen at all, but sometimes sex is the only thing you can think of, and it just kind of....takes over.
Why don't we just date? He's on the maturity level of an 8-year-old stuck in a twenty-something year old body. And that, well, that is why we're friends.