Monday, 02 January 2012

• So Much for Second Chances

  

  I posted once before that my girlfriend had cheated on me and that I gave her a second chance. I have been cheated on before and I never gave second chances but this girl is different I guess. I’m beginning to doubt that line of reasoning.

  Long story short, she was chatting with one of her guy friends on Facebook. She did this at work and left the computer open while she went elsewhere for a good amount of time for one of her co-workers to glance at the screen and see the conversation. This co-worker happened to be a friend of mine who, apparently, had tremendous respect for me and at the risk of seriously damaging his friendship with my girlfriend, copy/pasted the conversation into a Word file and sent it to me saying that he did not approve of that kind of conversation and that he thought I should know.

  Don’t know whether I should thank him or be pissed at him but whatever. And no, I did not put him up to this.

  I’m not going to put down all the details of the conversation but the explicit ones are the ones that matter. Keep in mind that chat is misleading a lot of the times and that I did not base my decision on a simple chat session.

  She told the guy how she wanted it in bed and that “he should not forget it”. The guy actually said before that, that he wanted to “try it but was worried she might tell him to get the fuck off.” So with those two parts of the conversation, one might think: WTF IS THIS?!

  I ask you: how would you take this kind of conversation? If your significant other talked to someone else of the opposite sex about her sexual activity preferences and stuff, would you like that or would you react the same way as I did and confront you significant other and ask him/her what was up? Keep in mind she has already cheated on me once and although I have my suspicion, I have no proof other than this chat session that she may have done so again.

  But I’m not really asking for advice as much as I just want to see how you guys would have handled this. I handled it the way I did my previous relationships and walked away. Unlike most other people, I burn everything that reminds me of my previous relationships. Every letter, gift, trinket, picture, electronic gadget, etc. goes straight to the fireplace and incinerated. I don’t hold on to failures and I don’t plan on being friends. If, by chance, we see each other in some obscure place, we say our “hi’s and hello’s” and that’s that. There is no need to make more drama.

  Needless to say, I told her I was done and left it at that. Cruel? Maybe. But at this point I’m fed up. Maybe I’ll explain one day why I am fed up but I don’t feel like typing everything down.

  So with the exception of this one girl, there are no second chances. I would like to say that I have tried it and it did not work out so no one can say that I did not try it. I’m tired of being the understanding man who would try to meet women halfway only to be stood up. The sad part is that every relationship I’ve had was with women of different cultural backgrounds so it’s not like I’ve been dating the same kind of woman every time, yielding the same result. Maybe I’m just unlucky (5 times)?

  So it’s safe to say I might just give up on this relationship thing and just be like some guy with 5 college degrees and a ton of money with no love life. In any case, being an understanding boyfriend who drops nearly everything to spend time with his girl, support her in her every decision she makes and not shackle her down like an obsessive bastard, clearly isn’t worth sticking around for.

  Hope everyone else has a better time with this relationship thing.

  I’m done.

  Have you ever felt similarly?
  

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