I've been keeping this thought to myself for a while, but after reading Girls Who Always Fall for the Awful Guy
, I figure I should write it out now.
I've heard and seen a lot of people go through rough patches in their relationships (or even just dating); hell, I've even been through my own. However, after the usual complaining about said guy who doesn't care, or said girl who's being a bitch, I then hear, "Guys are such pigs" or "Girls are so slutty" or anything within those means. It rubs me the wrong way.
One experience with one person doesn't mean the entire gender/race is the same. It's like saying "Black people are sketchy" or "Tall guys are ugly" or "The Westboro Baptist Church hate gays. The WBC are also Christian; therefore, all Christians hate gays." So, you had a bad date with a guy/girl because he/she was too pushy, arrogant, rude, whatever. Simply saying that all of one gender is incapable is not placing judgment on the group; it's placing judgment on yourself. It shows your immaturity. Instead of blaming the gender, blame the individual
. Look at what they did wrong, what needs or attributes they couldn't fulfill for you and then search for another on the opposite end of that spectrum.
Don't let one apple ruin the rest of the batch for you. That person does not represent the rest of the gender. We are each our own individual person capable of making our own decisions and react differently to different things. Don't rule the rest of them out because one person. Otherwise, go gay (or straight if you are already gay). You'll realize that everyone has their own set of strengths and weakness; you just have to choose which ones you can tolerate.
To group all into one isn't just immature, but it can also make you overlook someone who actually can sweep you off your feet.Have you ever been guilty of this?