Friday, 30 December 2011
In July, I wrote a post called Sorry, You Need to Lose 50 Pounds about L's friend, Emma, who was having some relationship troubles. To brief you, she liked one of her friends, Jesse, who was madly in love with her. Jesse was overweight, and so Emma found it too difficult to be physically attracted to him, so they weren't dating or even hooking up.
A couple of weeks ago, L and I went out to dinner with Emma and Jesse. They've been dating since Emma went back to school and they seem extremely happy. Considering all that I had heard about Jesse leading up to meeting him, I was fairly surprised when the guy shook my hand. He actually isn't all that overweight. Perhaps, he dropped a lot of pounds since the summer, but he seemed a lot more attractive than Emma had let on in the summer.
In fact, it occurred to me that Emma might like the meat he still has. In studying them as much as I could during our meet up without seeming outwardly weird, I noticed that Emma seemed to sort of nuzzle into him-- he makes her feel small. I think many women can relate to liking that feeling.
I guess what I'm trying to say here is this:
For any of you who think you won't get the person you are chasing, be patient. For those of you who think you don't like the person chasing you, step back and take a real look. When I first heard the story of Emma and Jesse back in July, I had doubts that they would ever get together. Now, although they haven't been dating long yet, they seem like a pretty steady couple. It can happen to you, too.
Have you ever experienced something like this? Would you wait for someone to lose weight if you were emotionally, but not physically, attracted to them? If you thought Emma was shallow when you first read about her, do you still feel that way now?