Thursday, 29 December 2011
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You Make Me Sick
It's so weird how something that happened nearly 8 months ago, affects me just as if it were fresh. I play WoW as well, to be honest, so it's very difficult to even log in right now.
After all, we were together, but he lived in the game more than reality with me. It got so bad, that he would yell at me over tedious, stupid things in the game...like the troggs at the entrance of Grim Batol, and how I didn't heal myself through it, but why would I? They weren't elites...it's not like I was going to die. I was overgeared for the place anyway, but he got mad, and in the middle of a pull where I should have CC'd, he started spamming my heal buttons and we wiped because I lost "control" of my character.
In the end, when I asked him if that was really necessary, he told me "Yes, maybe next time you'll fucking listen to me!" ...I grabbed my stuff, and left. He yelled at me often, and I was without a tire for my car, so he would get me, and not take me home for almost a month at a time.
I'd be locked away in his room, he'd text me saying he was "still at work" when obviously, that wasn't the case. I wound up in tears more often than not with him after the new expansion for WoW came out. Lots of him yelling, telling me he knows what's best for me. Don't get me wrong, he plays his class well, and I do too now thanks to him, but it wasn't right.
And yet, here I am STILL moping over some guy that treated me like shit, but I think it's the good memories that keep me caught in the past. The time before Cata came out, before things got sour.
In the end, my friend Peter who played with us on Mannoroth, asked him why he left me, and he told Peter I had a temper, I was a liar, and I was lazy. This was around the time RIGHT before I got my chronic pain disease properly diagnosed. I was bed ridden often because I was constantly not feeling well, but when I was up, I was cleaning his bedroom for him, his bathroom, doing laundry, helping his family out, etc. His father is diabetic, and around the end of our relationship he had a terrible diabetic low that almost killed him.
I took a weekend away from friends, including one very angry bride who needed me to get my dress within the next two weeks, and was hounding me incessantly that weekend to help his father. Cook for him, bring him anything he needed, etc.
I am so tired of this, and while time has been had, and is still going on, it feels like I really can't get much further forward, without clumsily stumbling and hitting my head again.What do I do?
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I'm sorry to hear that. I play WoW, as well, as does my ex. He was never that bad, but for some reason...Men get SO worked up over that game. I honestly don't know what advice other then to remind yourself that it was his loss. He lost someone great, and that's his own problem. Know that you didn't do anything wrong, and a guy that into WoW, when you are doing nothing wrong, is a jerk. -hugs- I hope that someone can give you some better advice, but I am here should you ever need to talk.
I have no idea what any of this said. You were dating an asshole who was obsessed with playing WoW? That's what I got out of this. I think that's right. Asshole or not, it always takes time to get over someone. You just have to keep stumbling forward.
i am not sure if this post is trolling... but this holds true for anyone who is trying to pick up from a bad relationship.
i don't understand like 1/2 of the article which is fraught with WoW terms, but what i gather is that the essence of the post is: "i am moping over an abusive man who neglected me and actively hurt me. what do i do?"
so here is what you do:
- get your chronic pain condition treated to the best that it can be. healthy diet and exercise will help, even little quantities of exercise. whatever you can manage.
- go out to dinner with your girl friends. dance! have a good time.
-start picking up the pieces of your life before this guy - throw yourself with gusto into your studies, your work, your hobbies. pick up the dusty instrument in your closet, finish that half-started painting from last year!
live your life. you miss him. you may continue to miss him for a while. this is natural - but it does NOT mean you should go back to him or rebound off into the arms of someone else. just like scabs itch, this is how it plain feels while emotional wounds are healing.
wait...what?
I was pretty much lost though all of this. It wasn't very coherent at all. I don't know about WoW but even aside from the weird game character things I didn't get this story at all. I picked up on the pieces that he is an ass hole. You aren't together with him anymore so what's the problem? I am confused...but am sorry you feel bad.
Wtf. A girl that plays WoW.
WOW.
I understood this completely, I play WoW as well and for about 2.5 years of our 3.5 year relationship, my ex played with me. We were in the same guild, he was an officer, and I was the guild leader. It wasn't my guild, but a an established and long standing guild of which I was elected GM. We had the SAME problems.
For example, when we first started raiding Karazhan a few expansions ago, our raiding core was very small, and mostly consisted of officers, so we distributed loot through a loot council setup. When we killed Maiden and I was awarded the mace that she drops, he FLIPPED out and started harassing me in whispers for over an hour about how it was bullshit and he deserved it more (I was a priest, he was a paladin). Then, when I got fed up, I revealed to the officers that my healing performance was suffering because another officer was harassing me about winning the mace, and he freaked out that I "embarrassed" him like that, and started threatening to leave the guild.
There were other problems. If I messed up in a raid or dungeon, he would flip out on me. If I preferred one piece of gear over another, and he disagreed, he'd call me a moron, an idiot, etc. Every time we got stuck in a raid instance and progression slowed down, I'd have to deal with him calling me, ranting and raving, threatening to leave, and I'd end up having to beg him to stay.
When I finally broke up with him, it was one of the best days of my life. Seriously, forget about this dude. I know some guys really like their video games, but if a guy is so stupid and socially maladjusted that he's going to treat a girl like that over a video game, he doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend or get laid, ever. Most normal guys would be thrilled their girl is playing video games with them, and would do everything they can to be helpful and make sure she enjoys it so she keeps playing. The behavior you described is emotionally abusive, which is unacceptable to begin with, but this guy was emotionally abusing you over a VIDEO GAME. You're upset because he did the leaving, and rejection always hurts, but trust me, you're better off.
i would say that time heals all wounds, but it's been...8 months?! girl you gotta keep yourself BUSY
Holy hell! I met my guy on WoW, he did help teach me some of what I know. But never, and I mean never, did he get upset or name call me if I did something disagreeable or stupid in the game. We would not be in a relationship if he had. WoW is a game, I play it for fun, he plays it..out of boredom really, if it ever got heated over a game then the game has to go for at least a little while.
Frankly that guy was a douche, period. Move on, learn from it, find someone better who is not a douche, be happy.
Oh god, there are SO many pieces of shit in Azeroth. Seriously, it seems like the don't have any grasp on the real world, and feel so badly about themselves that they have to belittle everyone else in the ONE THING they really are good at.
You probably aren't over him because you aren't doing anything productive to help the process. Go out and meet new people, hang out with friends. (if you don't have many outside of Azeroth, you need to make some.)
The good times are POINTLESS to care about.
If you need a new MMO, I've found that Final Fantasy XIV, while under developed, has a much more friendly fan base willing to kindly help new players, because they want the MMO to succeed and it can't without more people.
If most of your problems started from a video game, and he still chose that game over you (I've been there), You gotta remember why you left. Never forget why you left. Remember there are better men out there, and if there aren't then you are better off alone.
You want to fix your problem? Quit WoW, take up a new hobby. In fact I recommend staying off all forms of computer games/video games and whatever else. Time heals all wounds...it wouldn't be a cliche if it wasn't the truth.
The only thing you can do - move on. I was in a similar situation, but I ended up back with the asshole. Worst mistake of my life.
Wow, I'm so glad my SO doesn't do that.... I've been playing WoW for a while but I was never terribly good at video games so despite having great gear I just never reach my potential. Instead of yelling or controlling my character he gives me tips and tricks. Sounds to me like the guy was a big douche and no one deserves to be treated that way.
o.0 he treated you like crap. it's been 8 months. if you still play WoW, I'd stop if I were you. doing that alone can be a constant reminder of him. im glad you realized and had the strength to let go of attachments for the sake of yourself. alot of girls don't see that and continue to put themselves in crappy relationships.
@lorelei@xanga - same here. only understood a bit! haha..
This post made me sick. What is this? I don't even...
take a sledge hammer to his computer, it may not solve the problem, but I promise you will feel better.
Please translate this into sentences without any WoW references...
I don't play games so I'm not gonna bother deciphering all this wow stuff. I'm sure I can figure it all out if I put a little more effort. But anyways, to answer your question without answering your question. I'd say do what makes you happy. I'm sure you already know the answer.
Cheers and bon chance!
You are not responsible for what happened in his family, cleaning his room, or this guys actions...
however, you are responsible for how you react to the situation, and you endured a lot of pain and emotional trouble to be with him.
Do the mature, thing, take responsibility for your feelings, and realize that the guy is no good.
Do you really want to be treated like that? Obviously the good times weren't all that great if you are still whining about the bad times
Haha he sounds like the assholes you find in random dungeons that vote you out even though you're new and running with your guild in order to better your understanding as to what's happening as well as obtaining proper gear so that you may pull your weight (especially dps)...
I really wish that I didn't feel the need to say all that every few dungeons I join.... People on that game are crazy! I'm very lucky to play with my bf and his fam because they are the absolute best and just play the game because IT'S FUN! I think a proper establishment of what's reality and what's not is in order. It sounds like you need closure? Either kick his ass in a duel or actually talk to him. (Sort of joking about that first bit but it might also be fun if you think you could...)
In the end no matter what you do, you must try to get over it. He is one among many who complain about noobs. And it's not just in WoW. How often do people complain that someone's not pulling their weight in the work place? People grow, learn and live on.
All I have to say is.. my bf gets really cranky when I bother him while he's playing video games. Lol.
Besides the part after you left him, not a single thing I read was right.
I'd have left him ages ago if I were you.
Never date a game-obsessive guy...
You've chose to move on and make a better life, just keep that in mind and tell yourself
he's out of your life for a reason.
Quit WoW, it's probably his form of escape from real life. as long as it isn't running his life, playing wow is fine, just don't get in the way of it. You'll never be as good as him at the game because you have better things to do. Try SWTOR if you really can't let go of your mmos :P
He sounded like a fagget douchebag. He had no excuse to yell at you, especially over stupid fucking pixels.
It's good that you got out of that relationship of mothering him and his family. Props to you. He's a fuckin fagget, screw past memories, really. All he has now is his wow and hand.
I play Skyrim and all the WoW reference have me confused.