Wednesday, 28 December 2011
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Your Eyes Scream Sex!
So I've started dating again, and the people I've met have been... well, interesting. (Sometimes friends aren't the best judge of characters.)
I believe I have been doing this dating thing properly. I talk with them via emails, and phone calls. We agree to meet, and chat some more. We go to our respective homes, and that's it.
But something happened on Friday night that just amazes me. This guy who I was going on a second date with, told me at the end of the evening that "He couldn't date me because my eyes just screamed sex." I gave him a stumped look, and asked as sweetly as I could, "I'm sorry? What does that mean?" He continued on to say that my eyes were just screaming sex; that he felt he could never see me as anything more than a "friend with benefits" and couldn't see anything long term happening.
I was completely flabbergasted but said, "Okay. If that's what you feel, have a nice life!"
I do have to admit, I proceeded to the bathroom and stared at my eyes for a good 45 minutes. Yeah... boring as hell. If they scream sex, then I need a new ad campaign.
What the hell? I admit I have a healthy sex drive, but I haven't been sleeping around, I don't have sex with random strangers, and I definitely haven't done anything that would even shout "SLEEP WITH ME! I NEED YOU!" What the hell do my eyes have anything to do with it? Are my eyes secretly sending out messages to these guys that I need sex? Well I guess I best start wearing sunglasses at night.
So what does that mean? I'm not out looking to get some. If that is all I was looking for, I definitely would be pursuing a different avenue. I'm looking to meet people, enjoy life, and see where it takes me. Yes sex is a possibility, but it is a distant possibility if any.
It was quite a shame, this guy I actually had a lot in common with, we never had a lull in conversation and seemed to be getting along just fine (hence the second date). Hell he could've just said "Hey you're nice, but you're not for me."
Have you ever been tossed aside due to any body part being too "sexual" for someone?
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i sure hope a guy wouldn't turn me down because i was too sexual....haha
big.... sighs...
Well, that's definitely a new one.
Huh.....
Wonder what my eyes say. But people probably can't see them because it looks like I'm always squinting...
I'm not sure that's something to complain about...
It was probably just an excuse to let you down easy. You're so confused (and I'm sure flattered) by his comment that you aren't giving his rejection a second thought. Sneaky that guy is.
I've been told the same thing but in a good way. My current boyfriend said that a look I gave him the first time I saw him screamed "I want you right now." I've realized though, it wasn't necessarily the look, but instead the way I look at people in the eye. It now makes me think it's not necessarily a sexual thing but a dominant woman thing. Looking at someone in the eye shows dominance, strength, and confidence and men aren't use to that. That take it as being sexually dominant and confident. So, it's a good thing, in my opinion.
Eh, block his number and move on. Sounds like a loco.
LOL no, but my friend got laid once cuz she was "giving out sex vibes", mind you, she managed to turn a hot girl lesbian that day!
If a guy turns you away for that of all reasons, he'd most likely be a disappointment in the sack. Granted, there's more to a relationship than sex but, hell, would you really want a sexless relationship? I know I don't. Good riddance to him. There's other fish in the sea.
Thats rather interesting......I would've said 'um,okay' lol..and that would've been the end of it!
take it as compliment!
but seriously, like others say, take it as a compliment ;)
I once had a professor tell me that my eyes were sultry and sexy (this wasn't sexual harassment, more just an awkward comment from my female voice teacher) and that I needed to tone it down unless I was singing a song that called for it. I don't see it whatsoever. I think it's more because I have droopy eyelids! haha.
@meaganbme93@xanga - Looking someone in the eye is a dominant thing? I do it all the time and I never had an idea it meant confident or dominant. I thought it was just an honesty thing.
ONE guy told you this. ONE. I wouldn't worry about it.
lol people say the dumbest shit to get out of relationships.
there's no reason why you can't be completely sex-crazed and a good partner. my boyfriend and i have been together 3 months, and we fuck like rabbits, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love other things about me. we also cuddle and watch movies and go out to dinner etc.
there is no way you can be too sexual to be dateable, ignore him
I'm about to do a response post to this.
It's not the complete attraction, just sexual. At least he was honest.
I had a guy tell me that I was being too sexual for him...we never went past making out and I didn't think I was making any hints at wanting to have sex, we'd just been dating two weeks! Definitely not my intentions, but whatever haha!
Sounds like it was all for the better. If you stayed with this guy, your sex life would suffer. He sounds completely lame.
Once a guy said that I was naughty and too sexual because my boobs are so big... It's not like I made them big by doing sexual things and it's not like I flash them around... I thought it was very peculiar o.O
I don't think he was trying to say you look like you're trying to get some. I believe it was a way of calling you highly attractive. Every time I've heard a friend use this, it has meant that the other person, the person with the eyes, had sultry eyes... Meaning sexy eyes. The kind of eyes that make you want to take your guard down, but you know you need to leave it up.
I hate that he told you he couldn't see anything long term, though, or more than "friends with benefits". But hey, tell him to recall the ending to the movie "Friends With Benefits". There may be something long term there after all. ;)
I wish you the best. I wish I had those eyes with my husband some times. n_n Unfortunately, he's usually too tired, and I'm too late getting home from work. Poor guy. :) *Hugs* Best wishes!!
I've only heard the term "Those bedroom eyes." It means you draw people in. Compliment.
He was asking you to be his friend with benefits.