Tuesday, 27 December 2011
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For Guys: A Guide to Buying Jewelery
This post was inspired by a recent gift I received. I know he put a lot of thought into it, but it doesn't quite cut it. I wasn't mad, just a little disappointed. But it kind of made me laugh.1. Quality vs Quantity
Always remember, quality>quantity. This is true with most things, and it is ESPECIALLY true with jewelery. You don't have to go all out to get something of quality. Only have 50 dollars to burn? Well, don't buy: Godiva Chocolates, small jewelery box, a bracelet and a necklace all for approximately 50 dollars. What does that leave you with? Good chocolate and cheap trinkets. If you only have 50 dollars, forget the cheap trinkets and chocolate. Just buy one decent quality item. During the holiday season, it's not too hard to find with the sales and all. You can get her a nice sterling silver pendant, ring, or earrings. Do not get her 5 bracelets that cost 10 dollars each!! Please. Oh, and make sure the metal is at least sterling silver, no stainless steel allowed.
2. Simplicity
If you're like most guys, you probably don't know what kind of jewelery to get her. To be safe, stick to something simple and elegant. Do not get her a huge ass pendant with weird designs (unless you know for a fact she likes a certain unique style). It probably looks like a toy.
3. Necklace Length
If you're getting her a necklace, make sure the chain isn't too long. This is usually the case. An 18 inch chain is probably too long to wear most simple and elegant pendants.
4. Ecommerce
The internet is a good place to find a couple of items for much cheaper than retail price. Amazon.com is your friend. Surprise! It's not just for porn.
5. She tells you not to get her jewelery because you probably wont be able to pick something she likes
Take her advice.
6. Keep the receipt just in case
She might want you to take it back. Ouch!
7. When it doubt, ask a female for a second opinion
Enough said.
The jewelery box and trinkets will just be part of the decoration (clutter) in my room. It's okay, he tried. Your thoughts?
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this is so funny because my boyfriend bought me amazing diamond earrings for christmas this year but we went back to a jewlery store in the area because he was trying to explain why he didnt buy them at that place. so when we went i looked at the other earrings i had also pointed out and they looked shattered in the inside lol they looked so cheap and ugly although they still were about 500 bucks. So im glad he actually looked at them and cared about what he was buying rather than just saying "yea ill take those ones lol"
since you asked, here are my thoughts:
a) this is what gift cards are for
b) you come across as a high-maintenance bitch
First no matter wht he got you you should be happy. Second, I won't be able to keep this numbering up. Amazon.com, not just for porn? No. That's not what anyone uses amazon for. Try JTV.com. 18 " chain too long. Has anyon ever given you a necklace? Or did you just pull that statement out of thin air. Anything SHORTER than 18" is going to be too short, but 18" is NOT too long. If a girls tells you that you shouldn't get her jewelry because you won't get her something she likes, that person is probably not going to be happy with anything. Keep the reciept incase the item does not fit, is broken or needs to be altered. Not incase you have a too picky girl.
When it comes to jewelry I think a second-opinion is a good idea.
I mean, jewelry isn't cheap, if I was buying someone a jewelry item I'd want to be 110 percent sure they will love it, so I'd ask their best friend or their parents or sibs!
I don't have a lot of dating experience, but in my last serious relationship, my guy just found out exactly what I wanted by looking in the jewelry stores together, yeah, it was obvious, but hey, it makes him that much smarter for not wasting money on a random item I might not like lol, which, to me, gives him more credit than if he tried to surprise me, ya know? ^_^
I have...odd jewelry taste. It goes from the really cheap to sometimes slightly expensive. If someone wants to get me jewelry I just give them the link to my Amazon wishlist. They can either buy what is on there or just use it to get ideas. Cause I don't care for most of the things you find at the mall. I don't want diamonds. I hate blingy or overly feminine and dainty jewelry. So going the traditional route wouldn't be a good idea with someone like me.
I don't know why people are hating on the OP. This is solid advice! For example, if you get cheap earrings, many girls won't appreciate it because of possible infection. And jewellery isn't cheap, so getting simple things makes sense, since they work for most people. And if your gf is a decent person, she won't want to exchange it!
why is she a high maintenance bitch?
Lots of dudes buy their girl some junk, so it's good to get some tips on it.
Other tips:
1) buy man made jewels (diamonds, rubies etc) . They are still diamonds and rubies right down to the atoms...but they aren't price controlled by the jewlery cartel (DeBeers)
2) No one can tell if it's an imperfect diamond. Buy cheaper, but bigger and more sparkly. It'll look more impressive. Flawless, colourless diamonds impress no one but the jeweler.
For me, when a guys attempted to buy me jewelry... I accept it with a smile because it can be tricky to buy a girl what she likes. But if they tried, kudos to them and I will thank them. :) Even if it's ugly. lol.
I'd tell a guy to not buy me jewelry because I rarely wear it. I might have worn jewelry 2 or 3 times this year.
i agree with poster. but i feel we probably have similar tastes. its important to observe what the person normally wears before buying something she wouldn't. and please pack the reciept. because ill be nice about it but i just had to return something that was awful... and something else you can tell my friend liked, but i would never wear.
im a picky shopper though so i always tell people to give me money! please! or else if you want to get me a gift card make sure its a place i actually shop at/would want something from!
honestly though if someone wanted to buy me jewerly specifically and spend A LOT on it i'd strongly prefer us picking it out together- than it can be exactly what i want. but i like the idea of potentially being surprised but i reallly have specific tastes and most people dont get it right--- so i guess be very careful, very observational of what the person wears, really put lots of thought into it (i second the second opinions of people who have a similar style as her), and make sure it can be returned/keep reciept and give right with present.
I got an opal necklace from my boyfriend for Christmas. It is absolutely beautiful, and I'm very happy with it.
Even if he had gotten me a chain made out of sea weed, and a pendent carved out of playdough, i probably would have accepted it with open arms.
Beggars can't be choosers. Be grateful for what you get.
i def agree with #1 on your list, which is applicable to not only jewelry imo.
I think the most important one is to know your SO's allergies. Many, many women are allergic to nickel or other types of metal. Whenever I receive jewelry I'm almost always allergic to it which really sucks.
amazon for porn?
that's crazy.I 100% agree with the poster & here's why:
1. Quality vs Quantity
Costume jewelry (aka fake stuff) is cheap because it's not made of precious metals & it can irritate people. Some of it has lead or nickel in it (which causes allergic reactions). I'm not against stainless steel jewelry because it's hypoallergenic, but it does get scratched up & doesnt look good over time if you wear it often. Sterling silver is beautiful & often not too expensive.
2. Simplicity
Blingy & Big does not mean better.
3. Necklace Length
It depends. 18 inches it just right for me. Anything shorter is a choker & not many fancy that. 18-20 inches is good.
4. Ecommerce
Shoot,98% of my sterling silver jewelry came from amazon.com! It's awesome!! GO THERE!!
5. She tells you not to get her jewelery because you probably wont be able to pick something she likes
VERY true! Jewelry is expensive because it's an investment. If you arent sure what she likes, get a gift card, take her with you or ask someone she's close to to help you. Close as in mother, sibling, best friend.
6. Keep the receipt just in case
It's proof of purchase for the warranty cleanings & inspections. And if you need to exchange or return it.
7. When it doubt, ask a female for a second opinion
Eh, that might work but every girl is different.
@Earika_Silver@xanga - My hubby did the same thing when he was looking for my engagement ring. I had one picked out that I liked and he took one of those magnifying glasses jewelers use and there were so many imperfections...still ridiculously expensive. And she STILL tried to sell it to him after he picked out the one he told her he wanted to buy. :p
Step one - don't buy it, she's just using you for money. There is no step two.
This is a good list. When I was in high school, my high school sweetheart was trying to make up for not getting me anything for my birthday with the holidays (my bday is in early November, so not too far apart). I appreciated the thought, but the tacky $10 jewelry (a necklace and earrings and arm band) has been worn MAYBE once, if that. If he had spent that $30 on one decent necklace - like you said, something simple and elegant - instead of 3 tacky items, it would have gotten a lot more use. I feel bad that he practically wasted his money. Again, I really appreciated the thought, and $30 was a lot for a high schooler working at Jiffy Lube, but it really was a waste of his money. If he had asked for a female's opinion, that wouldn't have happened. So there is #1, #2, and #7. However, I would NEVER take back a gift because I "didn't like it." That would be so ungrateful. If it was something expensive, I'd suck it up and try to wear it at least once or twice a year for their sake. They made an effort to get me a good gift, the least I can do is appreciate it.
My boyfriend bought me a beautiful and functional two-toned watch that I LOVE this Christmas.
He also MADE me a chunky necklace by hand-carving a heart out of soapstone (the middle cut out) and wrapping a two-toned chain mail rope through it. While I normally don't wear chunky jewelry, I would wear that necklace. Why? Because he put so much effort into it, and care and thought in designing it. He knows that I love and support his hobbies, even ones like making things of chain mail. I would wear it proudly and am so thankful that he cares enough to link hundreds of tiny rings together for me.
It's hard to say which one I like more, because I know he put a lot of thought into both, but I by no means dislike either, even though the necklace isn't "my style".
Also, I just have to say, I've really liked all the jewelry my boyfriend has picked out for me. He's given me a simple (good quality) heart locket, a heart knot ring from James Avery, and an elegant Fossil watch. These things have also been spread out over the past 3.5 years.
Guys never buy me jewelry. The most I've gotten is a nice promise ring and my SO did a good job on that, very simple and sweet. I guess if you count the gauges he bought for me, my SO is great at picking out jewelry for me; wooden rose carved gauges and horn gauges carved with an image of Buddha :) very me. Whenever my boyfriend misses the mark on presents I still love them, but he actually appreciates when I tell him so he knows for future reference. I would hope he'd do the same with me if he preferred something else to what I got him.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - I didn't ask for jewelery. I even said not to get me jewelery since it's a tricky thing. But he went ahead and dropped 50 dollars or so on multiple cheap merchandise. I bought him something that was awesome for him. So ya, I was a little disappointed. If that makes me a high maintenance bitch, so be it. :)
@Olgarie - @greenIsh256@xanga - I fixed it in my original entry. But I was referring to the internet, not amazon.
@testyman666@xanga - Aren't man made diamonds cubic zicronia though? Those things can't scratch mirrors like diamonds can.
@BimmerPhile@xanga - Or maybe NOT. I have a job, he doesn't. It bothered me even more that he used his scarce resources for multiple cheap items which in aggregate wasn't that cheap.
@Kittyluve@xanga - No, I mean real diamonds that are made rather than mined and marketed by DeBeers.
An open letter:
If you are my boyfriend (not currently in the picture, but I hope to meet you at some future date), please ask my dad for advice if you'd like to buy me jewelry. He has impeccable taste and has never failed to buy my mother beautiful, tasteful things on all kinds of budgets for their entire 30 blissful years of marriage, beginning with a wonderful, unique wedding set and culminating most recently in a delightful diamond necklace. Ask him. Trust me.
xx
Me
Also, I have to add. I don't agree with the person above who said to buy bigger, cheaper diamonds. I can tell. I'd rather have a very small one that's excellent quality than a larger one that isn't. In fact, pertaining to the open letter above, my dad bought me a ring when I was a teenager that has one small, gorgeous diamond in it. I prefer that over something flashier and less nice any day.