Monday, 26 December 2011
My sister's boyfriend just broke up with her last night (night of 25th December that is) and the reason was that he wanted to concentrate on studying and that they'll be together when he's financially stable and has the ability to take care of her properly (getting married). Which is fine and all... except that they're both still in high school. How long is that going to take? He's planning to finish college and then get a job, so what? He expects my sister to just wait over four years so that they might get back together when he has a job and can support himself?
I'm not saying they shouldn't be seeing marriage as a goal, if that's what he really means then it shows how serious he is about the relationship. It just feels more like an excuse to break up. My sister and I are overseas right now, so he broke up with her over Skype, and also less than a week before her birthday. There's not that much urgency is there? Just to wait a few weeks for her to go back and talk about it in person? Even if it was brought up before, we go back a week before their last year at high school starts.
Does this sound ridiculous to anyone else? Even if they're both students and have no income there are still plenty of ways to have fun that are free or cheap. Money isn't even an issue for him, he constantly picks going out instead of eating at home and suggests going to movies even when there's nothing they want to watch. There has never been any talk of money problems from him in the 3 years I've known him. Study should be a priority but to put all that "I'll come back for you when I can marry you" at this point in time and as a break up line is just BS.