Saturday, 24 December 2011
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Birthday Troubles
It's the month of December in which the holiday cheer is all around. It's also the month in which my boyfriend's and my birthday occurs! Mine on the 21st and his on Christmas day. We decided to share my birthday since he and I work on Christmas. Though since I was busy studying for finals, he took it upon himself to plan our birthday, only telling me yesterday that I was to make a reservation on the strip (we live in Vegas) for a steakhouse since he had already taken care of the entertainment part. Not only on the strip but also after 9:30pm, which limits me on where we could go.So I went online immediately only to see that a steak dinner on the strip (at the majority of places) would run me about $300, minimum! I texted him saying that he was going to make me broke but he took it as a joke. I was serious! The pay at my workplace has gone down significantly so I can't afford $300 dinners. My Christmas shopping this year is limited due to low income and my parents are helping me pay some of my school tuition for the first time. So the idea of spending that much money on something that will exit my body in a few hours, when I NEED it for books/ tuition... sounds insane! I would feel guilt for spending that much when the money is needed elsewhere.
So after sleeping on it, I told my boyfriend my dilemma. He understood and said not to worry about it. He had taken care of it as soon as he read my texts, leaving NO room for compromise. Which was definitely not what I wanted.
I felt relief and like crap at the same time. He is worth every penny that that expensive dinner is worth but I can't afford to dish out money like that so easily. He makes triple if not more than I make so I shouldn't feel so bad but I can't help it.What can I do to make it up? That dinner was apparently supposed to be MY part for his birthday and the entertainment part HIS to give to me. Has something similar happened to you? What did you do?
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Get a 1/4 of Nathans and Bud Light for $2.50. However, the alternative is to just put some money into the slot machines and hope to hit it big.
Give awesome birthday sex. Problem solved. Guys are so simple minded. :)
I'm sure he understands, and you can make it up next time instead. There is nothing you can do about it since you said it yourself that your pay has gone way down at work and you do need your money for more important things. I've been in similar situations myself.
That is a ridiculous amount of money! It sounds like he understands though :) maybe he didn't realise it would cost so much money? Just make it up to him - a romantic weekend or something together, maybe? Guys all love sex and if you planned a weekend around that, I'm sure he'd love it!
Buy the drinks, leave the tip, wear something sexy. Maybe get him a small gift to show you care.
I was thinking about going to Vegas next month for the first time and staying at New York New York, any other recommendations?
@HopeWithinReach@xanga - It all depends on what your spending limit is on rooms :) I live in Vegas and me and my boyfriend always get this one room at the Luxor. Its $100 a night but there is a hot tub in there :D Cant get any better usually with hot tubs :D The Venetian is also a really good (but expensive) hotel, but then the Luxor does have like.. $40 rooms im pretty sure. I've never stayed at New York New York though
Don't sweat it, he understands, when a couple is solid, the important thing is celebrating something together, not how much one spends on the other etc, If he can afford the dinner, make it special by sharing it with him, get him a gift you can afford and spice things up in a way you know he likes. It's all good!
since dinner is out of the question now, surprise him with desert afterwards! take him back to your place, where champagne and chocolate strawberries will be waiting... and maybe you can take a second to step into some lovely lingerie as well (:
Mine and my first boyfriends bday happen to fall on the same day, and I had a job. He expected me to pay for dinner, movies, and he would have his mom pay for an ice cream date after. Not the same, but that was my nearest troubles. I'm glad he understood, that's always a plus :)
@HopeWithinReach@xanga - I also live in Vegas and for my 21st birthday we got a Suite at the Red Rock. Super nice and the price wasn't too bad! All the rooms there are very nice and the views are nice, too. I've also stayed at the Palace Station and The Orleans. I don't remember the costs, but the rooms were nice. I don't think they're too expensive either :)
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Why couldn't you just make dinner for the both of you? Don't feel bad. I wouldn't spend $300 on dinner either when I can use it more effectively elsewhere like my bills.
wtf. why is everyone suggesting they bang? Make him something more personal, cook it yourself and light candles or something. Spending time together is the idea, not spending money. You can make more extravagant gestures when yo ucan afford it.
Even if you aren't a great cook, there are some awesome websites and blogs that can show you how to make like-gourmet food for easy and pretty cheap. I would plan to make him a really nice dinner (start early so you can make it for your evening of entertainment though#. Even if you were to make something ridiculously fancy, it surely wouldn't be more than 50 or so, and a homemade gift is #in my mind) always better than just shelling out cash.