Life's crap. People are crap. The end.

Look for guys who don't give out sex like candy. Those are the guys worth hanging onto, most likely. It seems that guys who care about waiting for sex are guys who are more interested in long term, loving relationships.

It's healthier to realize the reality of love early in life. Their is no perfect person. Sometimes the person you're with is going to be a jerk or a bitch. You may find a great person early on or perhaps have to wait quite a long time depending on your preferences. You could possibly marry a few people in your entire lifetime. And every part of romantic comedies is a fucking fairy tale. Does that mean love in reality is horrible in comparison? Absolutely not. It has way more to teach you and it's very enriching. The good and the bad. 

When your not focused on finding someone,that's when you meet that person! Real life is nothing like the movies. And don't go for those 'bad boys' they always end up not treating you right. Focus on working on yourself and enjoying the little things in life!

@tomuch2askfor@xanga - Life is not crap. Yes, people are crap, but there's a handful of people that are worth a damn. You just have to find them... They're closer that you think.

You'll meet the right guy!! Don't worry too much :) My BF now is like a freaking God. I can't believe everything he does and how he is and everything. It's all so perfect, and I'd kind of lost hope or at least lost interest in looking for someone so I just focused on myself until out of the blue, he came along and I still can't believe he's real. There's a guy out there for you who isn't just an uncaring bad boy. Just don't stress and let your whole life revolve around finding him!

yea, and then i stopped giving a crap and started doing my own thing. i figured i wasn't ready for a relationship and prefer the time for myself. oh and i got a vibrator. life's good. 

Romance does exist.It just happens in different ways that are not as obvious as the scenes you see in movies.

The meaningless sex is the answer. I would say stop putting yourself out there for you to be used. It's not attracting the crowd you want.

the love you have always deserved?  why exactly do you "deserve" it?  you're going around engaging in meaningless sex and relationships with bad boys who couldn't care less about you in the end.  it doesn't sound like you're doing anything to deserve the kind of love you're longing for.  this idea that everyone has the right to fairy tale love just for the simple fact that they exist.... well it's like walking into a job interview and telling them you should get the job because everyone deserves to have a good job.  love, just like with anything in life worth having, has to be earned.  if you want that kind of romance, YOU need to make the effort to get away from those meaningless encounters.  YOU need to make an effort to find guys who want a real relationship, and YOU need to make an effort to connect with them.

Agree, romatic movies are fake, no doubt it is never like that. But there is romance and love, it's just not as straight (forward) as it appears in the movies but sill worth the effort I think. Your experiences of guys are bad, okay, so far mine are too. In all fairness I'd like to add: some guys are better than others and some girls love other girls, there are many options if you don't rule anything out. Explore. The right one is out there, you just haven't met him (or her) yet. Maybe one part of you is attracted to the kind of guys another part of you can't stand, that's human. So, make sure YOU know what you are looking for, besides looks, lol, and look for that. Live well.

Instead of wishing someone could love you deeply, focus on making yourself the person who you know can be deeply loved. I'm not saying you aren't, it's just that typically, the reason why people say that love finds you when you're least looking for it is because we are most lovable when we invest the greater part of our energy into our dreams, goals, helping others, etc..